BRINGING THE BEST TO THE SURFACE

BRINGING THE BEST TO THE SURFACE has been brought to life with the recent move from Kathleen GA where we had made our home for 11 years. Both Greg and I have taken pride in our home and yards but it was shocking when the furniture pieces were removed and some dusty residue was visible. Yes, there was dust and little items which had escaped our hands and found refuge in a dark and quiet place. It was embarrassing but we had made arrangements for a final clean. Carpets were cleaned, dust all gone, walls, cabinets, and baseboards all freshened and with the house shining the doors were locked until the new owners take residence. I felt pride that we wanted the best to show without those shady reminders we are better on the surface apparently but made a promise to keep the hidden parts cleaner and shinier.  This brought me to the next phase for this topic…..our new home.

We had also arranged for the new home to receive a cleaning but had to rely on a stranger to clean and that was a mistake. However, we have to move past mistakes and make the most of life. When we viewed the home and as I always do, I looked at the “bones” of the home for potential. I had some reservations, which are now unfounded, about some colors on the walls and the layout. Without furniture, I could see the areas that needed TLC and it was pretty much visible on the surface. Now, for the unveiling of our move in adventure:

Missy, my daughter who was the number one trooper involved with the move pointed out the failures of the person who disappointed us with a pitiful job. We slowed down the unpacking and Missy went to work cleaning out drawers and cabinets as well as bathrooms. She replaced old shelf lining with fresh marble design contact paper and I saw the best coming to the surface, not only in the shelves and cabinets but in my daughter’s ability to take pride in any job she does. The love for cleanliness and organization had been passed down and she glowed while she scrubbed and swept along side of her Mom. Yes, things are best when viewed on the surface but she has learned and was practicing those values which are embedded deeply in her mind and body. The house began to shine both on the surface and in us from taking pride in what we do.

As I said in the beginning, we can make the surface appear all is well and pretty but how would we feel if the layers of our mind and soul were peeled away and the hidden places brought to the surface? Would we be happy and content for all to see? Or would we feel embarrassed as I did when the dust bunnies appeared from their dark, creepy places? I hope this is food for thought as we continue to structure our new home with intentions of moving the furniture more often, dusting in the dark corners, we will be conscious of moving our minds and souls to a clean and shiny environment.

Live Life; Love Life; and Live Life to the Fullest by bringing your best to the surface while dusting out the cobwebs of the soul.

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Don’t Hate Me; Love Me

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Since I am still in moving mode and am not able to write long posts, I thought my post on Facebook would hopefully inspire all of us to be more accepting and understanding to our fellow humans. Please think about the bigger picture. I wrote this as an American but the philosophy that love conquers all is universal. Please read older posts on the blog until I can get settled in our new home.

Love until it hurts

Sunday Morning Thought: As I watch the violence and uproar pitting one American against another American, this writing came to me. All of it will not apply to all of us but give some thought about how we are allowing hate to push love out of our world.

Love Me; Don’t Hate Me

Don’t hate me because I choose to speak out; love my passion.
Don’t hate me because I don’t speak out; love my self control.
Don’t hate me because of my skin color; love me because I am a human being.
Don’t hate me because of my gender; love my ability to do my part to enhance the world.
Don’t hate me because I am not rich or poor; love me for making the most out of my life.
Don’t hate me for having a strong faith in my life; love me for having faith in you as a person.
Don’t hate me for any physical beauty or even the lack of; love me for my inner self.
Don’t hate me for being Southern or Northern, West Coast or East Coast; love me for wanting to live in this great country.
Don’t hate me for what I eat or don’t eat; love me for being myself and allowing you the same.
Don’t hate me for whatever political party I choose; love me for having the freedom to choose.
Don’t hate me for respecting others; love me for respecting you.
Don’t hate me when I am right about an issue; love my ability to admit when I am wrong.
Don’t hate me for what I choose for a career; love me for doing jobs you wouldn’t do.
Don’t hate me for any flaws I have; love me for accepting those flaws in me and others.
Don’t hate me for any reason; love me as love conquers all hate in the world.

In other words, let us love each other for our differences united by compassion, understanding, tolerance, and justice. Until We Love Again…….Arline Miller

Love from quotesvalley.com

Side note: I found it ironic when I searched for Guide to Accepting Love on Google that all I saw were negative articles without one of the articles from being positive assertion of love. What a world we live in and I add the lyric from a song “What the world needs now is love, sweet love.” Songwriter(s)‎: ‎Hal David‎, ‎Burt Bacharach
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MOVING INTO A MOVING STATE OF MIND

MOVING INTO A MOVING STATE OF MIND is what is on my mind after several weeks of packing, cleaning, and sorting. As I usually do when undertaking a task of any kind is how can I apply this experience to my life. In contemplating what effects the action of moving are created by this activity and it is enlightening. I felt it was worthy of sharing with my readers.

Moving creates activity and physical movement by the necessity to move items which may have been stored for a long time. 

  • Closets, cabinets, and drawers are emptied and/or organized. During this task, many items can be eliminated, donated, or trashed. Items which have not been used in years are located. Sometimes this creates laughter or a sigh of a memorable occasion. The main rule of thumb: If you could do without it for many years, it makes sense to get rid of it unless you think it might be a good item for Antiques Roadshow.
  • Dusting is necessary and even though you feel you keep a tidy, clean home….this activity will prove a humbling episode. I always heard that dust means souls have passed through….I must have had an army come through those upper shelves. It pays to keep a good sense of humor upon discovery.
  • The thrill of finding that one item you felt lost is exhilarating and a treasure hunt ensues from this find. However, the thrill is diminished when nothing else that has ever been lost is not found. At the end of this frenzy, the physical exhaustion takes over.
  • Soul searching takes place frequently during the cleaning, sorting, distributing, repacking, and trashing. With the removal of items not used or items we should have never had in the beginning, and the sense of pride when you turn loose of possessiveness of old things.
  • The process begins to speed up as more things are discarded and it becomes easier to let go of those things we don’t need.

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This list brings me to the life lesson learned from this Moving into a moving state of mind. I found it difficult when I started to clean my soul to let go of familiar habits or vices, whichever way you choose to think. At first, I wanted to hold on to those items or people. I would try to attach more meaning and/or feelings to those items which never served a good purpose and I struggled with the decisions of release. Maybe I would need this or that later, but even with the struggle I began to discard items, habits, and even people that were not positive influences on me. What I found, and I saw this in the moving stage; the more I discarded the freer I felt and the cleaner my surroundings were. Yes, some dusting had to be completed in my life as well as our home. Things begin to shine as the dust is removed; you have more room for the pretty items when the trash is removed. In other words, when we move into a moving state of mind and move in the good and move out the bad; we feel refreshed, clean, and ready to take on the world in a positive frame of mind.

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ON THE MOVE, FEELING THE GROOVE

Good morning Blog Readers! As I am gulping a big mug of coffee, I wanted to give you an update on why I haven’t posted lately.

My husband and I are in the process of preparing and packing for a move this month to his hometown to be closer to our families. My hometown is only 40 miles away from our new destination which will be great to visit family and friends as well.

I am having some new adventures from finding out there is a time relevant process to pack certain rooms or it can get very funny when you can’t even find a bowl in your kitchen so a Red Solo cup is utilized to scramble/beat eggs. I can’t wait to share these moments which can be a character building phase or lost it all moment.

There are over 800 posts on my blog which you can access in my brief absence. You can access them from the home page and can go back even to the first posts for the blog.

Have fun browsing, and when we are settled in our home, I will settle myself down with a fully stocked kitchen and blog away.

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Have fun with Bitmojo. Create your own bitmojo to fit the moment.

 

See you later with some kind of moving tales to share with you.

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RESCUERS MAY BE THE RESCUED

RESCUERS MAY BE THE RESCUED. Recently, I saw a post on Facebook about a little dog huddling by a dumpster at a business located on one of the busiest highways in our town. I immediately thought of that four lane, late afternoon with everyone getting off work and in a hurry to get home, highway being so dangerous. I thought of the night coming on with all of the dangers and risks for a small dog and asked my husband to go get the dog and then we would see about locating the owners. He took a look at the posted picture and went out the door, no questions asked. This started our Duchess adventure.

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Upon Duchess’s arrival, she was pitifully skinny, already had become a mother at some point but not recently, and scared to the point of shaking. Even our other rescued dog, Buster who is now 4 years old, recognized her fear and didn’t do his usual security alert by barking his head off. She clung to me and allowed Greg to put a collar on her with our info just in case she tried to bolt but this little princess was too exhausted and was only interested in eating and drinking water and laying down. I think the tears came when she laid down beside me and hugged my arm. She seemed to be thanking us for rescuing her. For the next two days while we did the usual checks for the owner, she slept and ate and slept some more. Buster was confused but somehow he was different with her and accepted her better than other dogs. He knew this was going to be special or maybe it was just Duchess being so magnetic.

 

We observed those two sniffing each other out, a little territorial spat or two, following each other, eyes and ears alert, and then it happened. Duchess regained her weight and strength and began showing her fun side romping and stomping with enticing I want to play moves and Buster gave in. They began to chase each other out in the yard and at first Buster who wasn’t used to that much activity was being outdone by her highness. He looked exhausted at first but as the days have gone by, he is revving up his skills and it is on, let me tell you, it is on at our home. Each day they romp, nip playfully, and even Duchess will grab Buster’s tail and hold on while he tries to turn around to stop her. They flip, they turn, they jump up and get down, they go out the doggie door and around the yard, and back in. This goes on for at least an hour or more every day and the funny part is it has been therapeutic for both of them. Duchess feels she has a home since she had to have been on the streets since it took a good nail clipping, several days of hydrating, feeding and several flea baths to get this gal back to good health. A good check out with vet, spaying her, and now chipped and she is now on the road to her royal standing. The reason I named her Duchess is because Greg said she was a Princess and since at least one time she had puppies or was pregnant, I said she had to be a Duchess .

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The best part is about Buster. As I said in the beginning, RESCUED MAY BE THE RESCUERS has to do with Buster. We rescued Buster as a three pound little ball of flea covered fur with scabs. Buster who is a Papillon mix and a very different personality. He is so lovable to Greg and me but is hesitant to be social with others or at least that was before Duchess. Somehow her silliness, goofiness, and playfulness has brought out a different side of Buster. As we are in the process of moving within the next month, there have been several people coming in and out of the home for the sale and the planning of moves, etc. I have watched him and Duchess, protective of us first with their usual security barks but showing curiosity and not being skittish. They team together as a pack and watch each other’s back. When Buster or Duchess are outside and hear the other one start barking, each one will go to the rescue.

Click on this video link and you will see them at play:

Buster and Duchess at play

I tell the story of Duchess and Buster to encourage all of you to rescue animals, dogs and cats. The life you save is a blessing not only to the scared rescue but an enhancement to your existing life. We have rescued several dogs over the years. They were showered with love and devotion all of the days we were blessed before they went to the Rainbow Bridge. We knew Buster’s story of neglect. We knew the emotional tug of Whiskers, our Schnauzer Terrier Mix who will never leave our hearts. His is a story for another blog day but oh what a dog. Then sweet Bandit, my Yorkie writing partner, who was content to be Mommy’s doggie and lay beside me while I wrote the blog for several years and my first novel. It tugs at my heart now that Duchess finds that special spot next to my hip when I write.  Rescue, rescue, rescue! It is the most rewarding and emotional blessing when they hug or lick to say Thank YOU and I will love you forever.

Live Life, Love Life, and Live Life to the Fullest by rescuing! 

 

Our Tribute to Our Loved Rescues, Bandit (otherwise know as the Bandiman) and Whiskers, the famous Wikki. May you romp and stomp at the Rainbow Bridge. You made our lives happy and we thank you and will love you both forever.

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OUR LIVES HAVE GONE TO THE DOGS

 

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OUR LIVES HAVE GONE TO THE DOGS….and we like it! For several weeks we have been involved in a couple of time demanding events and I have noticed the changes in our life. Greg and I have discussed for several months about moving to his hometown and the area where most of our family is located, eight wonderful grandchildren included. This plan has been put into place and we have signed a contract for a home. Now we have polished, cleaned, de-cluttered, and readied our beautiful home to sell it and move on to the new adventure. I prepare you with our primary, or at least what I thought was, objective but stage left enter Duchess, our latest rescue dog and the excitement and focus has been detoured in a moment and has taken center stage.

Duchess hugging me

One afternoon I noticed someone posted that a small dog (rat terrier to be exact) was spotted on a four lane highway with insane traffic at that time of day and was scared and hanging behind a dumpster. It has been extremely hot so I sent my husband to rescue this little fur baby. I will never forget how she was shaking when he brought her in and how many fleas were on that sweet girl. She apparently had been exposed to the elements for an extended time as her nails were entirely too long and she was very skinny. We went through the checks and notices and no claims so we decided she must have been allotted to us through a higher power.

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It wouldn’t be a complete narration if I didn’t give, as Paul Harvey would say, “Now for the rest of the story”. Buster, who is our rescued Papillon mix, and who we have worked with on his social skills. Buster who is absolutely a dog of his own kind.  He came to us as a three pound black bundle who favored a miniature bear cub when we had our rescued Yorkie, Bandit and that is an entirely different story for a future time.  Back to Duchess and Buster’s adventure. For some reason, Buster sensed the fear in Duchess when she came that night and he didn’t do his usual non stop barking when someone or something enters our home. He was curious but we kept them apart until she stopped shaking and began eating. Eat she did, until we had to stop her to prevent her body rejecting too much food too soon. For two days, she slept and ate but showed so much appreciation to have been saved. Then the fun began. She did not accept Buster’s rejection to playing, she kept on until he joined in and the chase/playing was on. It goes on every day for over an hour they spend in and out of the house (we have a doggie door for easy access for them) and even on our bed to show off their alligator mouths and it is not aggressive but playfulness.

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This would be a good story but maybe not a fantastic story if it were not for the fact we are showing our home and are trying to keep it immaculate for potential buyers. Last night, we were blessed with a rain and I haven’t witnessed Duchess going out in the rain. At least, until with shiny floors, freshly laundered comforters on bed, shampooed rugs, and then here she came, soaking wet and running wild through the home. I ran to get a big towel and the fresh rain had to have given her some kind of thrill because she thought I was playing with the towel. I saved the house’s shiny condition but when it was over, I lay on the bed thinking it was over. Not! Charged up, she found Buster and enticed him  to their nightly romp which I videoed the portion on the bed.

As I started this blog post, we are deeply involved with selling our home and feeling positive but we are deeply involved with all of the doggie love too. I think we may have been blessed with this distraction to minimize any stress that usually comes with selling; we have our fur babies playing.

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ALONE? IS THAT WORKING FOR YOU?

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ALONE? IS THAT WORKING FOR YOU?  This post may be slightly confusing until I have assembled all collective thoughts for a deep thought provoking subject.  No, this is not a dating website ad but I wonder how many of you, single or in a relationship, feel alone?

Life has a way of isolation if we allow it. We may withdraw from society and not necessarily from social media as we find that is a safe way to be alone. On social media, we can disguise our personal and real feelings. I have heard many times from my blog and my Facebook posts the question, “Are you really positive or faking it?” Good or bad, I am a positive person with reality checks.

Many people are alone while they are in relationships and quit communicating with their significant others. I would like to remind us to think back to when you were first together or even better, when you dated. How many times did you look at your phone and hope for a call? How long did you talk when you got the call and/or made the call? How many times did you read a card you received from your mate? Why did you stop?

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Here is a great guide to communication (click on link to go to the original article and I think it is a great way to go through a practice run and see if you are communication to the fullest level:

Love and communication: 11 expert tips for a better marriage

On the school playground, you probably gave your sweetheart a paper heart with “I like u a LOT” painstakingly scribbled on it in your favourite crayon colour. Since then, you’ve come a long way in terms of communicating your love to your spouse. But even the best marriage can benefit from a little spark. This month, we chatted with relationship experts and life coachesfor easy, practical tips on enhancing communication within a marriage, as well as special ways to express your love.

Enhance your communication

  1. If you and your spouse have a disagreement, explain what’s bothering you in a non-accusatory manner. “Use all the restraint you can muster to not say, ‘You never’ or ‘You always,’ ” suggests Sally Landau, a certified life coach.
  2. But sometimes, discretion is okay. “Everything in your head does not need to be said,” says Stephanie Staples, a motivational speaker and wife of 22 years. “I know you think you will explode, but . . . ask yourself if what you are about to say is going to help or hurt your relationship.”
  3. Have an attitude of gratitude. “Recent studies . . . reveal that gratitude benefits both the giver and the receiver,” reports Todd Reed, a communication coach and author. “When either of you does something nice for the other – lets you sleep in, washes the dishes when it’s your turn – take a second to show appreciation. Even if you’re just saying thanks for the small stuff, it can go a long way in solidifying your relationship.”
  4. Use “hot words” when things get heated . “Never respond when you are angry – leave the room or the house if you need to cool off,” advises Elle Swan, an international speaker and life coach. “Establish a ‘hot word’ that each person can use to let the other person know, ‘I am angry and we need to stop talking.’ ” Examples of hot words include “cancel” or “break.” Once you’ve both calmed down, resume the conversation. “The best way to fully understand what your spouse is saying,” she says, “is to ask clarifying questions. A clarifying question always begins with, ‘What I hear you saying is . . . . Is that correct?’” This will give your spouse a chance to either agree or clarify what they meant. “The goal is to always communicate with a calm, level head.”
  5. Express your needs or wants clearly. “You did not marry your clone,” notes Debbie Mandel, a radio host and author of Addicted to Stress. “So, be specific when communicating to your spouse. Do not take for granted that he or she has read your mind or intuits what you want.”

Show how much you love your spouse

  1. Write a love note – the classic way to express yourself, and a practice that has slowly been replaced in our modern times. “In an age of virtual communication,” says Farrah Parker, an interpersonal communications instructor at California State University, “couples may benefit from giving and/or receiving a handwritten note – not an email, not a text message, but an actual pen and paper.”
  2. Take a class together. “Couples who are not engaged in any joint activities,” says Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, a marriage and family psychotherapist and author, “are living ‘parallel lives’ like young children in parallel play; there is no real connection. Without joint time and activities, intimacy suffers.” The benefits are many. “Learning together alleviates boredom, routine and the doldrums,” she says, “and allows us to see our spouse in a different light. This keeps the creative juices flowing, making a person more interesting. It also allows for new and interesting conversations, whether during the activity and/or after it.” O’Neill specifically recommends taking a cooking class, because the act of making a meal and enjoying it together creates a sense of security and safety in your marriage.
  3. Go beyond simple “I love you” remarks. “Use character-quality language,” suggests Susanne Alexander, a marriage coach. “When couples say specifically, ‘I love how enthusiastic (or courageous, or caring, or thoughtful . . .) you are,’ it goes right to the heart. Add specifics about what actions were taken and it works like giving gold.”
  4. Dates – even cheap fast-food ones – are important. “You don’t have to break the bank to enjoy time with your spouse,” says pastor Ryan Dalgliesh, author of Love Notes: A Biblical Look at Love. “Plan a regular night each week that you can call a date night. As a poor preacher, our monthly budget is $100. Once a month, we go to a nicer restaurant. The other three weeks, we hit up Chick-Fil-A or Subway. We just make a point to have time alone. It is always very refreshing.”
  5. But you can even make a date night at home, even with your kids. “Many couples are harried at the end of the day and dinner gets thrown on the table,” says Michael Jonas, who creates conversation-starting board games for couples along with his wife, Barbara. Make a more intimate atmosphere at the dinner table with matching dishware, a sprig of flowers and softer lighting. “These specific things calm the day’s end and invite conversation – even with children, who often learn from what they observe their parents do rather than what their parents say.”
  6. Make a souvenir that celebrates a special moment that you and your spouse shared. “Find a favourite photograph of the two of you and have it printed on a mouse pad or a large magnet,” says Jason Coleman, author of Discovering Your Amazing Marriage. “I did this almost seven years ago with a photo we took at the beach one summer. At the local office supply store, I found a box of printable magnetic paper. I made a large refrigerator magnet with our picture on it, from our home computer and printer . . . and it’s still on our fridge to this day!”

Now for my deeper thought: I posted this message on Facebook and it says it all:

Wednesday Morning Thought: We are not alone. In the darkest night or the brightest day, we are blessed to have Our Heavenly Father watching, protecting, and overseeing us. If you feel small and unappreciated, think about how important you must be to God to have his attention every minute of every hour of every day. Seek His guidance in all things, large and small and trust that whatever is in your heart is felt by God. How wonderful to know this personally! How magnificent is God’s power and strength! If we feel God’s presence in our life, existence becomes more than mere existence but a loving relationship. One of my favs: “King James Bible Psalms 46:10
Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.

Today, I plan on taking some time and be still. I have so much to be thankful and I want to tell God how wonderful He is in my life. Have a blessed, thankful day as you have been blessed to be alive and reading this…Take advantage of the blessing you have received. I am going to do the same!

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