WHAT IF WE HAVE FAMILY DAY AS A HOLIDAY?

My brothers Joe and Carlton, both deceased and my sister Juanelle who I treasure our time together.

We have celebrated several holidays this year and several more are on the horizon. This morning, I was listening to Yogi Berra’s son, talking about how his father played such an important part in his sobriety. It moved me toward this blog’s topic, WHAT IF WE HAVE FAMILY DAY AS A HOLIDAY? I realize we have many of the holidays which bring families together but they are for other great reasons for celebration. How about a single day or weekend that is devoted totally to celebrating the family.

We used to have family reunions, and a small number still have them. When you think about your childhood, it is likely an annual family reunion is in this mix. It certainly is in mine. I was close to my cousins and all of my aunts and uncles at that time, and now it is only on social media or funerals that most of the interacting takes place. What does that say about the family unit and where we are heading?

Family Reunions when they were the big event in family togetherness.

I found this statement about positive and negative effects of family in Google: Family dynamics significantly impact health in both positive and negative ways. Having a close-knit and supportive family provides emotional support, economic well-being, and increases overall health. … When family life is characterized by stress and conflict, the health of family members tends to be negatively affected.

This is a good read for all of us to discover how important the family unit is for our well being:

The Benefits of Healthy Families

https://www.livestrong.com/article/147185-the-benefits-of-healthy-families/

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Families are a source of emotional support, love, security and protection, reports Healthy Children. Healthy family relationships result in happy and secure children and give parents the ultimate reward of being important in the life of a child. Healthy families benefit each family member in important ways and help provide a unique sense of belonging and value that cannot be found in other relationships. The benefits of healthy families are far-reaching and all encompassing.

Moral Character

The love and support of family members motivates many people to continually strive to be better people. The development of strong moral character is one important benefit of a healthy family because it builds a bond between family members that is centered on a similar belief system. Healthy Children reports that families provide guidance to children regarding values, discipline and the internal code of conduct that motivates human behavior. A similar belief system can also encourage each family member to pursue his own interests while adhering to a strong set of personal beliefs and expectations, says Healthy Children. When each family member feels supported and valued it builds a healthy bond that encourages the formation of strong moral character.

Physical Health

Healthy family relationships often translate to healthy eating and exercise habits as well. According to Kids Health, families who engage in healthy eating and exercise together will ultimately become a healthier and stronger family unit. Parents are encouraged to model and explain to children why eating certain foods is healthy and how exercise can benefit all aspects of a healthy life. Finding time to cook healthy meals together and engage in physical activity will build a stronger and healthier family that will benefit from being physically healthy. Kids Health also indicates that children who are taught how to eat healthy and exercise during childhood are more likely to become healthy adults who also raise a healthy family.

Independence

Healthy families encourage each member to become independent and self-sufficient. Healthy Children reports that parents can offer important and necessary guidance to their children to help promote independence that will serve a child as she grows up. Offering children increased independence as they grow will build healthy families that are secure and comfortable enough to disagree with one another while also supporting individual interests and opinions. Healthy Children indicates that autonomy builds a child’s confidence while also teaching her important problem solving skills that will follow her in other relationships she builds throughout her life. Healthy Children also suggests that giving each family member a role or specific duties will help build a partnership that will allow for increased independence as a child grows.

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Note from Blogger: Yesterday I was busy working as I have been all week. I had realized it was Friday and the weekend was coming soon. It had been a week of different stresses, not all work related but stressful anyway. It was close to the work week closing and I was satisfied with the project’s status. We had wind damage to some trees on our property but my husband had jumped into action and had the young man who helps doing yard work and handi man jobs take care of the cleanup with some assistance from Greg. I had counted our blessings and was checking out some final tests, when I heard some sounds coming from our backyard. To my surprise, my sister Juanelle and her granddaughter Makenzie had slipped in for a visit. Talking about forgetting all of the stress and enjoying some time with them, wow!

I think we should have a national celebration for the family. On that day, no arguments between family members should be allowed. We should only be able to call or communicate with family so friends, business associates should be busy with their families. I have watched over this past week of a family who united and the best part is this is an annual event of a lot of them go to the beach and are together for the entire time. I saw photos of them flying kites. When is the last time any of us found the time to go together and fly kites with the children and adults? Kudos to my dear friends Wanda Medders, her husband, children and grands, Dianne Troupe and her family members, and especially the children and grands of their deceased sister, Teresa Hester. How special and important for them to be included in this family event.

The beach family time with Wanda, Dianne, and Teresa’s families. Great way to celebrate.

Our lives are busy; I get it! All of us have so many things to do or really do we? Tomorrow is Father’s Day and how many plan to see your father if you are blessed to have your father around? Or will other events be more important. I have a rule of mine and it may not mean a hill of beans to anybody reading this……As long as your parents are living, they outrank you on celebrating special days. If you go to your in laws, nothing wrong with that but how does one set of parents outrank the other? Go see both or one on one day and the other on the next. Is this asking too much? Shame on you. So think about how many times they came through for you. Enough said……Have a great holiday and remember, this is one of the days family is celebrated, one member at a time.

LIVE LIFE; LOVE LIFE; LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST BY HONORING THE FAMILY, ESPECIALLY YOUR OWN.

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HAPPY FATHER’S DAY 2019

This year on Father’s Day 2019, I revisit with some additions, a post I wrote about my Daddy’s goats. I thought I would add another poem I wrote recently about Daddy. I realize these are personal reflections of my time with him but the bigger picture is most of my readers could write this topic’s blogs as we have memories of our parents and they are steeped in love. On this special day, pause and remember those times with your Dad.

Here is the original post:

A LOOK BACK TO DADDY’S GOATS is a tribute from Daddy’s girl (me) to my Dad Arlie Lott. You can see who I was named after and miss this man who shared so much of my childhood with hunting and fishing. We rode the country side together and if he had his head under the hood of his 1949 truck, my head was under there too. I treasure those times and I found this post from several years ago. I hope you enjoy the humor in it because that was something my Dad and I shared too. Happy Father’s Day to all Fathers this Sunday.

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Here is the post featuring my attempt at writing a song (you can see I was smart enough to stick with blogging. A little update, I finished the second book and started on the third book.

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TODAY THE WORDS are DADDY’S GOATS.  Usually,from the stories I post which encompass the animals, I get a lot of response. This one may give you a little laugh or smile. Many of you will know who I am talking about when I mention Peggy Mercer, a classmate of mine, author of several children’s books and songwriter  encouraged me to try my hand at song writing. I assured her she might want me to stick to writing on the blog and on the book, but many of you know how persistent Peggy is so here is the first verse and chorus of my “song”  DADDY’S GOATS. The beauty of the story is such a good one for all of us to learn from the goats. They knew how to keep life simple. They had goals and if something happened to upset their completion of those goals (climbing up and going down) they got up and tried again. I miss my Daddy since he died and I miss those special times when we would go out and visit with his animals and what I would give to go fishing with him one more time. When this song writing fiasco happened years ago, I emailed my song to Peggy and once she stops laughing at my amateur attempts at song writing; she will probably tell me to get up and try again LOL.  (Side note: As of July 2015, I have received no offers for song writing contracts so I leave all of that to my friends, especially Michael Rey – Country Songwriter; Lily Nelson; and Peggy Mercer but on a good note, I have published my first novel, “A Mistress, A Wife” and now writing my second one, “Tell Me Lies; Love Me Still”.)

The moral of this story is we may not be good at everything, but it never hurts to try. We may have to try several times to get it right, but we need to keep trying. God allows us, by forgiveness, to try and try again to get our lives and souls right. I hope you smile when you read Daddy’s goats. Live life; love life and live life to the fullest!

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Verse 1

My mind goes back to a better time

When life was simple and people were kind

I would  visit on My Dad’s country place.

The farm; my Dad; and his goats in a line,

Laughing and loving, all the love we could find.

Chorus:

Love was simple way back then

Nobody was mad; everybody was glad

Dad loved his goats and he loved us.

They loved him back like the rest of us.

He was simple in love; he was simple in life.

If life could be free as Daddy with his goats.

Here is the latest poem I wrote about Remembering When:

DADDY, I REMEMBER WHEN….

I remember those times as if they happened yesterday.

I can recall the special times with you in a special way.

A lot of people have referred to me I was Daddy’s girl.

It seemed to me you polished me like a shiny pearl.

Maybe others have memories of going on exotic trips.

I remember the winding roads through mountain dips.

It wasn’t always fun and sometimes even was scary.

Yes, we sat still and quiet while the trip was wary.

Our times of your spoiling may be been frugal.

Bat Masterson’s show brought ice cream for the ritual.

We laughed, joked, and shared some family time.

Our dog Dooley brought his bowl for a treat divine.

Daddy, I remember the fishing, hunting, and visiting

To the country we would go together smiling.

You taught me to always have a daring soul.

With love, discipline, and charity, you played a role.

Daddy, I remember your laughter and your smile.

I never forget the many times we share and each mile.

I remember the pride you always showed to me.

You were my father then and you always will be.

Happy Father’s Day to Our Dad, Arlie Lott

Written by “The Baby” Arline Miller 2019

FEATURED BIBLE VERSE:

Galatians 6:9
And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. 


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TO SQUASH THE SQUASH or NOT?

To Squash the Squash or Not? Over the years on the blog, I had referred and/or posted several squash recipes, even squash pie. I love summer squash and today I will make the following recipe with the exception of using only summer squash since I don’t have zucchini. After you look at this yummy recipe, I will add some thoughts on whether to squash the squash or not (hint: not a recipe but a life lesson so stay tuned).

Summer Squash Cheesy Bakeadded by Stacey Lawson

My brother plants a large garden every year and just the other day his zucchini and yellow squash are now ready. I brought some home and wanted something a little different to do with it where they weren’t cooked to a mush.Cook time: 30 Min  Prep time: 15 Min  Serves: 4-6Ingredients1 large zucchini, thinly sliced4 large yellow squash, thinly sliced1 medium onion, chopped4 clove garlic, minced1 Tbsp dried basil1/4 c olive oil1 c Parmesan cheese, freshly shredded1/2 -3/4 c mozzarella cheese, shreddedsalt and pepper, to tasteDirections1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

2. Sauté onions and garlic in two or three tablespoons of olive oil and sprinkle with salt.

3. Prepare a baking dish (approximately 8×8) with non-stick cooking spray.

4. Spread the onions and garlic on the bottom of the baking dish.

5. Stack zucchini and yellow squash alternating vegetables. Make rows in the baking dish, standing the vegetables vertically in the pan. Continue until you fill the pan.

6. Sprinkle squash with dried basil, salt, and pepper; then drizzle with olive oil.

7. Cover pan with foil and bake in 350 degree oven for about 15 minutes.

8. Uncover pan. Cover vegetables with Parmesan cheese. Return to oven for 10 minutes.

9. Then cover vegetables with mozzarella cheese and return to oven for about 5 minutes until cheese gets golden brown.

10. You can also place it under the broiler.Last Step:Don’t forget to share!
Make all your friends drool by posting a picture of your finished recipe on your favorite socialSummer Squash Cheesy Bakenetwork. And don’t forget to tag Just A Pinch and include #justapinchrecipes so we can see it too!

As you can see variety is abundant in the versatile vegetable. Baked, raw, stewed, and even fried are the many ways of preparation for yummy dishes.
Arline’s 2nd Try Buttered Squash Casserole
Even Salads love Squash Morsels

I am not a recipe blogger, I love squash and on my Pinterest you can find recipes but I thought about squash and it motivated my out of the box blog topic……Squash the squash or not? I would like to share my thoughts with you:

Life is made up of all types of people in all shapes and colors. Some are thin and some are not. Some can talk your ears off and the others you can barely make them out in a crowd. Some have deeper thoughts and serious goals; others just want to have fun. Variety is definitely not confined to squash. People display an even more complex makeup and design and we have our favorites. Some we even find distasteful and we shy away from that flavor or as I like to observe as their personality. We mark them off our grocery list or circle of friends easily and without much thought.

My daughter is her father’s care giver for his dementia. When we were married, his taste was very bland and if you mentioned garlic or any spicy flavored food, he wasn’t having any of it. My daughter is a garlicoholic and makes yummy dishes with a lot of spices and even hot peppers. For whatever reason the dementia has lessened that resistance and he loves spicy, garlic loaded food. Who would have thought it?

Now for the deeper thought: Before we squash the squash or as in this life’s lesson, avoid the people who we don’t butter up to at first….we give it a second try as I did on the dish shown above. I tried it again and with some slight changes, I made a very good dish. If you give people a second chance, you may expand your friend circle or at least make the experience a neutral one instead of one you want to spit out. I am not advocating every bite will be tasty, but sometimes people are an acquired taste not an instant favorite. LIVE LIFE, LOVE LIFE, AND LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST by giving people as well as food a second chance if the first exposure is not the most pleasant.

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ENCOURAGE NOT DISCOURAGE

This morning’s blog is not meant for any specific person and doesn’t exclude myself as it is an important message for all of us. When we are in a relationship, a business association, a blogger or even a motivator and especially in a friendship, we can find ourselves in a mixed emotional situation. This is the focus of this message and I feel I can use a refresher course.

STEPS TO ENCOURAGE OTHERS:

  1. Encourage even the smallest effort. …
  2. Stop finding fault with the wrong and applaud the right. …
  3. Look for outwardly demonstrable ways to encourage a person. …
  4. Reject negative responses. …
  5. Make positive comments. …
  6. Write encouraging comments. …
  7. Tell people positive things about themselves. …
  8. Notice when someone does something good.

As usual, I like to get some thoughts flowing so we can evaluate where we stand on this topic and I list some thoughts to get the conversation going:

  • Am I sincere with my comments or is it just fluff?
  • Do I truly care if this person improves his or her self esteem?
  • Have I listened more than I have talked?
  • Is this area of concern or worry an area I have sufficient experience to express ways to improve?
  • Do I offer encouragement or do I express how to do it differently?
  • Do I have the trust of this person to feel my genuine feelings of encouragement?
  • Do I make it known to this person I am interested in their success?
  • Have I evaluated, not judged ways to encourage and not discourage?

Over the years, I have had the blessing of encouraging others and it is probably as meaningful to watch another grow. When others have encouraged me, it had given me hope I am going in the right direction.

However, I have had, and I am sure you have experienced the opposite of encouragement and received discouragement, judgment, opposition, and other forms of distasteful words which injure your confidence. What or how do we handle this form of discouragement? Here are some thought provoking questions for this element of life:

  • How do I receive criticism?
  • Do I feel this statement is meant to encourage or discourage?
  • Do I feel less important or successful after hearing this statement?
  • Do I listen if someone is offering advice or have I dismissed their advice before I hear it?
  • Can I separate encouraging words from discouraging statements?
  • Do I understand the difference between constructive criticism and harsh judgmental criticism?
  • Have I considered my personal methods of speaking to others?

All of us have talents, some expressed and some we have hidden for fear of rejection. I have witnessed some people who have talents which are far more gifted than others who have no problem expressing their gifts. Most of the time, if the hidden talented person is encouraged by those people they trust the most, they will find it in themselves to begin sharing those talents. On a personal note, I have witnessed from my sharing of family memories, personal experiences good and bad, others will share their stories and they are delightful. I sit sometimes and wonder why they wait but that is their choice. We are blessed from their willingness to override their apprehensions. I find if I or others, who have found their voices, step out and begin the conversation, it allows the freedom for expression. This is a form of encouragement.

In all ways, try to improve someone’s days. There are struggles and we should want to help in the fight, whether it is our loved ones, friends, co-workers, and even strangers. When you are expressing your expertise or talents, we can remember the person standing in front of you may be a hidden genius or artist and the right word can be all they need to push them to sharing their talents with us. We will definitely be the winner if this happens. LIVE LIFE, LOVE LIFE, AND LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST by encouraging someone to do the same.

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DID SOMEONE SAY SEVENTY?

This morning, as well as a few during the last couple of weeks, I have awakened with the thought of my upcoming birthday. Seventy, did someone say I will be seventy this year? In so many ways, I feel like celebrating and in others, I could let this one silently pass. Wasn’t I just 40 or 50? Where did eight grandchildren come from? Maybe, they keep me young. My wonderful husband has a lot to do with my happy being and I like having him as one of my reasons to be young. I still work, and love my work but shouldn’t I be retired or not? I am writing on my third novel and am loving the story behind it. Is it my creativity keeping me young at heart? I have become a soul seeking peace and am more contented with all that God has given and not missing what others have. Well, as my usual positive self, I will assemble a list of reasons why I should celebrate and not deflate. Here is an article I found which points out the Best Things About Growing Old:

My husband Greg is such an active man and I have to admit we are a good match. This picture was taken around the time we married and even with the changes life gives us as we age, we stay young at heart. Love is a youth serum but allows us to have a great sense of humor at the changes.

Best Things About Growing Old

Here’s a list of 10 great aspects of aging — from the financial perks that come with turning 65, to the personal insights that come with decades of experience:

1. A Happier Outlook

It may surprise some, but studies show that seniors are among the happiest groups of people, and that they are significantly more happy than their middle-aged counterparts.

The author of a study on the subject, Dr. Saverio Stranges, says, “This could be due to better coping abilities. Older people tend to have internal mechanisms to deal better with hardship or negative circumstances than those who are younger.” Another reason seniors may also be happier is because age means that they are “more comfortable being themselves.”

2. Grandchildren

American writer Gore Vidal once joked, “Never have children, only grandchildren.” Grandparents often get to experience the joys of little children without the diaper changes and sleepless nights. Grandparents love their grandchildren, and this love lightens their own heart while simultaneously benefiting the grandchildren who receive this love.

Dr. Karl Pillemer. who studies aging and intergenerational relationships, is a firm believer in the importance of the relationship between children and their grandparents. He notes that, “Research shows children need four to six involved, caring adults in their lives to fully develop emotionally and socially” and that “the grandparent/grandchild relationship is second in emotional importance only to the parent/child relationship.”

3. More Time for Loved Ones

Retirement isn’t inherently joyful or relaxing — it’s how that time is used that makes it special.

One of the best parts of retirement is spending time with family, friends and other loved ones.

4. Opportunity to Pursue Your Dreams

Victorian novelist George Elliot wrote, “It’s never too late to be what you might have become.” The time gained during retirement is an excellent opportunity to pursue dreams and passions that you might have put on hold.

For instance, you can learn a new language, take that trip you’ve always dreamed of, or write the novel in your head that’s been waiting to get out.

5. Participation in Civics and Volunteering

Growing old provides a sense of broader perspective, and it often makes people inclined to focus much of their efforts and energy towards bettering society and creating a better world for future generations.

In addition to spending time with loved ones and pursuing passions and personal dreams, retired seniors have more time to be civically and politically involved, and they do just that.

For example, people over aged 65 vote at a higher rate than any other age group according to data from the U.S. Census Bureau. They also volunteer at a high rate. The Bureau of Labor and Statistics reported that one in four U.S. seniors 65+ actively volunteered during 2015.

6. Wisdom

Smithsonian Magazinearticle described a number of recent studies demonstrating the emotional and intellectual benefits of aging. One study described in the article showed that seniors have better control over their emotions than other age groups. Researchers had participants of all ages play a gambling game “designed to induce regret” and found “unlike 20-somethings, those in their 60s didn’t agonize over losing, and they were less likely to try to redeem their loss by later taking big risks.”

To read some great advice from America’s wisest, see our blog post, “Priceless Advice from Older Americans.”

7. Better Social Skills and More Empathy

Another study described in the aforementioned article asked participants to give advice to hypothetical authors of “Dear Abby” letters. The findings indicated that seniors have have superior empathetic and social abilities. The study said:

“Subjects in their 60s were better than younger ones at imagining different points of view, thinking of multiple resolutions and suggesting compromises.”

While seniors may have acquired better social skills than their younger peers, they can be vulnerable to isolation. Read our blog about helping seniors avoid social isolation to make sure that these skills have a chance to shine.

8. Guaranteed Minimum Income, Medicare and Social Security

In an article about the history of aging, we discussed how, before the 20th century, seniors without the means to support themselves  were forced to move into what were referred to as “poorhouses” or “workhouses.” This was the lot of seniors who were not independently wealthy or who did not have family members who could take care of them.

While poverty is still a big problem among seniors, safety-net programs such as Medicare, Medicaid and Social Security mean that American seniors should have a guaranteed minimum income and health insurance even if they aren’t wealthy and don’t have children who can support them.

President Franklin Roosevelt in 1935 described the importance of Social Security and similar safety-net programs that he helped to enact, “We can never insure one-hundred percent of the population against one-hundred percent of the hazards and vicissitudes of life. But we have tried to frame a law which will give some measure of protection to the average citizen and to his family against the loss of a job and against poverty-ridden old age.”

9. Senior Discounts

As trivial as senior discounts may seem, there must have been a time you envied them. The discounts offered to seniors can help people save money in a period when income tends to be fixed and limited. These discounts also provide a great incentive for seniors to make the most of their retirement, for the discounts are often for the exact types of services that help seniors stay engaged and active, such as dining, medication, entertainment and transportation.

There are even websites like SeniorDiscounts.com which exist to help seniors locate businesses that offer senior discounts.

10. Sense of Accomplishment

Older people often have a healthy sense of pride that comes from their accomplishments. These accomplishments needn’t be great feats.

John Lennon’s lyric, “A working class hero is something to be,” puts it well. Seemingly ordinary achievements like raising a healthy and happy child, being happily married, serving in defense of the nation, or retiring from a job in good-standing after years of dedicated service, can be the foundation of a pleasant contentment in old age.

What is your favorite thing about growing old? We’d like to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

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My daughter Missy keeps me young as she is the forever young poster girl. She was and still is a blessing to my life. In all things in life, I know she is by my side. Cherish your children and grands and love each moment you share with them.

Note from Arline Miller, blogger and author about My Feelings About Getting Older: I do feel older but not OLD. I find that the busier I keep my mind the younger I feel. No, I don’t know a lot of the questions on Jeopardy but by watching I have learned more than I used to know. Google is my friend and I don’t hesitate to research something I am interested or at least curious. I think curiosity is a good thing and maybe that is why a cat seems to have 9 lives. If we stay young in our minds, our bodies get deceived and we keep going. I am not going to be on youtube as an acrobatic 90 year old and I don’t try to look 20 in makeup or clothes, BUT what I do is try to live life to MY fullest. I rest when I need to rest: I go when I need to go: I laugh because I like to laugh; and yes, I cry when I need to cry to release any hurt or loss because I loved and will continue to love. I feel songs and sad stories but I don’t allow sadness to be bigger than gladness.

This was taken before I decided to cut my hair. Knowing me, I will let it grow again, only to cut it again and so goes the Arline theme of growing and going.

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DO WE HAVE TO REPLY?

This morning, early I checked social media after I had my devotional and something occurred to me. I am not going to make this a religious post but more of a daily living observation. I hope it relates in a meaningful way and not a beat down post. I am preaching to the choir as I have found myself so tempted so many times to jump on a post and reply. Actually, I have typed a reply fast only to think about it for a few seconds and erase it. Once erased, I felt better that I had used good judgment in not posting a reply. Thus this message:

In the current state of discord on so many levels, is it wise to always put “our two cents worth” into a conversation? I thought of some questions to ask ourselves before replying or at least before hitting the post button.

  1. Will my reply create a good conversation on this subject?
  2. Is my reply a healthy response?
  3. Will my reply add to the conversation or will it create negativity?
  4. Am I considering the rights of the other people posting?
  5. Will my response make me feel good or is it meant to offend others?
  6. Am I responding in anger or am I adding to the conversation?
  7. Have I given proper thought to this subject and researched prior to adding my comments?
  8. Does my reply or response exude wisdom with creditability?
  9. Will I expand my knowledge from the ideas from others?
  10. Do I respond to have the last word or can I accept others feel differently?

I feel all of us have voices and sometimes I have learned the most from unlikely sources. This being said, I have a feeling we have too many unwelcome voices who only speak in bullying terms. Because I don’t agree with some thoughts and philosophies, I am never going to push my thoughts and/or beliefs on others. We have been given intelligence to make decisions on what is acceptable to us in our personal lives. I am a firm believer if I haven’t walked a mile in your shoes, I have no way of knowing how your feet feel.

We were made unique with each one of us able to think for ourselves. If we all set out in the woods with no trail markers, it is highly likely that we will choose different paths. Some may be easier, some more difficult, some will get us to the other side of the woods faster, but eventually almost all of those who took their own path will arrive on the other side. Here is a deep thought: Do we go back and hunt for those who got lost and maybe didn’t make a good choice or do we stand and comment on how dumb they are or how they couldn’t find their way if signs were on each tree? This is the point and focus of this blog post…….Your reply or response to this question may be a hint of how or if you have a need to put your “two cents worth” into conversations. I am not going to answer for you but it is worth thinking about as it may determine a lot about our character.

As a blogger and inspirational writer, I would like to say I would want to help find the ones who struggle with finding their true path. Too many criticize each and every move if they are not controlling those moves. It is a last thought: I love to cook and bake and usually we have a recipe to guide us. In faith, we have our written word and guidance from those who devote their lives to spread the gospel. In schools, we have teachers who have studied subjects and have a good grasp on the content. What I find a good addition to all of the qualified material and reference sources is if I use my mind, assemble all pertinent information, list out the pros and cons before I come to a conclusion. Call me a critical thinker with a lot of creativity thrown in for good measure………Until We Reply Again……Arline Miller

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WHY DO WE PRAY?

TODAY THE WORDS are WHY DO WE PRAY?” The majority of the world prays in some form or other. Many are devout believers in different faiths and honor the tradition of regular and/or daily prayers. Many pray when they are in need of divine intervention; others pray prayers of deliverance. Whatever the tradition, ritual, custom, or practice; most people pray. I bring to the discussion table of thought for today’s subject….WHY DO WE PRAY?

Throughout my life, even in times of being outside a Christian lifestyle; I prayed. I have heard from some people say, “Do you think God hears sinners’ prayers?” so what are our thoughts of this. My feelings are simply, “If God had not heard my sinner’s prayer, I would have been lost forever. It is how we pray and not if we pray. Life deals out blow after blow; we become weary of its toil and we feel defeated. At some point in time most of us will fall to our knees and ask for divine help from God to save us from ourselves. Now, here is where I feel a need to share a thought. Once we have found salvation and redemption; why is there a need to pray? We are starting to wade in the waters of life with this thought. Some cynics would say; if you have been saved, why is it necessary to pray? As you have heard me say, I speak from an ordinary person’s position and not one of the spiritual leaders and pastoral stand and I am not anybody and my thoughts are my own from my experiences.May I say why I pray? I pray because I want to thank God, praise God, ask for forgiveness for any wrongs, willingly or unwillingly, and all of these reasons are great reasons but this is not the most important reason I pray. I pray because I want God to know how much I have learned to love God. I love the peace I get from praying. I love the assurance I am and have never been alone. I love God’s patience in teaching me patience. I love the love I feel without asking for it; God gives it to me freely. I love to ask for others who are in need as I know how many times God has helped me and how God loves all of us and is willing to help if asked. Maybe my reasons aren’t your reasons and that is the best part of praying. Each person can pray prayers written by others; prayers can be either long or short; and there are no grammar checks as God listens with the ability to interpret what we mean when we speak to Him. Please remember, it is not a science and there is no specific way to pray; Prayer is an emotional talk with Our Maker.

Why Do We Pray?

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Some people ask me Why do we Pray. Your children might ask you the same question – “Mum/Dad why do we pray ?”

How would you answer them? First you would need to explain the meaning of praying.

To ‘Pray’ means to ‘Communicate’ and in this context it means to ‘communicate with God’.

why do we pray, communicate with God

Remember always that Communication is two ways – you have to convey your message, but you also have to LISTEN to the other person’s message.

Now it will be easy to discuss with your child as to ‘why do we communicate with God’, or Why do we pray?

It is the same as ‘Why do we have to communicate with Mom or Dad’? Because:

  • We love our parents and we need to show our love for them
  • We know that they love us and we feel overjoyed when we experience their love for us.
  • Our parents would guide us to do the right thing and take the right path.
  • They would explain things when we don’t understand and we question them.
  • We would want to thank our parents when we are given a gift or a helping hand.
  • Our parents care for us when we are sick or when we are in trouble.
  • They would advice us how to keep away from trouble.

It is the same reason as to why we communicate with God or pray to God.

FEATURED BIBLE VERSE:

Philippians 4:6-7 ESV 

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 

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