ONE WORD AT A TIME is on my mind this morning and I thought I would spend some time on this thought with you. I am in the process of the first edit on the second book in my series REFLECTIONS OF LOVE and I find it intriguing how one word can make a significant difference. If one word in an entire book can alter the theme of the book or the depiction of a character, how important are our words spoken or written to other people? Have you ever said something you meant a certain way only to have someone think you meant an entirely different meaning? How many misunderstandings occur from a text or voice mail? Each word has the potential to enhance, encourage or discourage another human being. Let’s break this down and consider what we say.
Here is one of my original quotes on Arline’s Little Quotes on the blog and I will give you an example of how one word can change the entire quote:
Hate is not because of a person’s skin color; hate is because it is hate! Love is blind so it is the absence of love which causes racism. Point in check; racism is not limited to one color and that is why I know racism is hate in any color. ALM
Is Hate not because of a person’s skin color;…………
By this simple change of position in the sentence, it now brings up a question instead of a statement and can accelerate a negative thought instead of a well meant statement. Do you see how even the positioning as well as words can change a mood, a position, or encourage anger or confusion? One word at a time spoken in a positive or negative tone can make a world of difference.
In an excerpt from an interesting article, I found an excellent demonstration on the power of words:
Words Have Power by Jack Shafer Find: https://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/jack-schafer-phd
Words have power. Choose them wisely.
Posted Nov 02, 2010
If the word “interrogation” were used instead of the word “interview,” the likelihood increases that investigators would assume that the person being questioned is guilty. Interviewers view interrogations as adversarial and, at some point prior to interrogations, they either consciously or unconsciously form the opinion that the interviewee is guilty to some degree. If this were not the case, then the interviewers would be conducting interviews not interrogations.
The interview/interrogation paradigm creates two negative primacy filters. The first negative primacy filter is that the interrogation will be confrontational. If interviewers go into the interrogation with the preconceived notion that the suspect will be confrontational, then the interrogation will likely become confrontational because the interviewers will tend to interpret anything the suspect says or does through the filter of confrontation. Interviewers begin interrogations with a heightened sensitivity to confrontation; therefore, the slightest provocation by the suspect triggers responses that are more aggressive because interviewers anticipate confrontations. The same actions that interviewers perceive as aggressive during interrogations would probably be judged as less aggressive or neutral during interviews because interviewers perceive interviews as non-confrontational. The second negative filter is that interviewers will likely view the interviewees as guilty before the interrogations commence and perceive everything the interviewees say or do as support of their guilt and discount or excuse away any evidence that does not support their preconceived notion of guilt.
An alternative approach to the interview/interrogation paradigm places the inquiry process on a resistance continuum. At one end of the continuum, interviewees offer information without resistance. At the other end, interviewees are reluctant to provide information or fall silent. This concept allows investigators to glide back and forth along the resistance continuum using a succession of specialized interviewing techniques to overcome varying degrees of resistance. Interviewers need only focus on the appropriate selection of interviewing techniques to overcome resist¬ance from witnesses and suspects alike. As the interviewee’s resistance increases or decreases, the interviewer adjusts the intensity of the inquiry by selecting the suitable interviewing technique to overcome the interviewee’s resistance.
Words have strong messages and inflections to those who are listening and/or reading. What we have to remember is the reception as well as the deliverance of our speech. I am not preaching to the choir as I have been misunderstood many times without intentionally mis-speaking. One wrong word may change a relationship, friendship, employment, etc. If we choose our words carefully and maybe do some “editing” in our lives, we can enjoy great conversations and lives. LIVE LIFE; LOVE LIFE; LIFE LIFE TO THE FULLEST BY SPEAKING WORDS OF WISDOM.
The Bible speaks of the power of words:
Proverbs 12:18 ESV
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Ephesians 4:29 ESV
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear
For 100 BIBLE VERSES about the power of words, go to: https://www.openbible.info/topics/power_of_words
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