TODAY THE WORDS are LOSING TOUCH. Life can be a funny thing. We start out as children, play with our friends and family, cousins included and make them our friends too. We start school and the school mate friendships start and build with some friends staying in our lives and others leaving when we either change schools or they do. Sometimes, in life with families moving, we lose touch with friends. We think about them from time to time and wonder how they are doing. Fate steps in with unexpected encounters of seeing them and there is joy in our hearts when we still see the child or the young teen we played, laughed, had fusses (for those not in the south, those are little arguments), shared food, enjoyed a good game of touch football, swam, etc. We try to catch up with stories and updates on current status, where we live, where they live, where we work, children, grandchildren, who we married, and so forth. We bridge gaps of times past, and it seems as if we return to a wonderful time in our lives, so why do we “lose touch”?

Every now and then, I think I should stop the Facebook process and every time when I think this, I see so many of my friends that I had lost touch, and I cannot lose touch again. It amazes me how I can be in one state, a great friend in Tennessee, California, Florida, Virginia, etc. and then so many of my dear friends still living in the same hometown as I did. I also find it wonderful that my husband who lived in a neighboring town has friends who are friends with me too. By social media or getting ourselves out there and touching base with friends, we stay in touch and that is a wonderful thing.

Now for the deeper thought…..Do we lose touch with our souls? Do we do a check on the status of how we are doing in the spiritual realm of life? Or do we experience the “losing touch” with the dearest friend we have in this life and beyond? When was the last time, we checked in God’s Facebook and made sure we are listed as God’s closest friends? I think of “Reach out and touch someone!” phrase and today is as good a day as any to reconnect or stay connected!


1 Corinthians 15:33

Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals”

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Somehow, this morning when it seems as if I didn’t have enough time to do all I have to do before I go to work. I felt an urge to speed up everything I was doing, rushing through the tasks ahead, feeling a little flustered, and wondering if I would have enough time to write the blog and then it hit me as to the topic I needed to write and “Haste makes waste” was at the forefront of my thoughts. In my lifetime, and probably several of you are going to agree with my thoughts, I have allowed pressure from outside sources to overwhelm me and I have wasted a lot of my positive energy while I was in the “tizzy” state of mind. How many times have you tried to get in a hurry, only to drop things, forget things and generally end up getting farther behind. Oh, I have many times. Whew, let me breathe….have you felt that way? We sometimes over promise and it causes us to sometimes under deliver. We are not physically or even mentally super heroes, and this causes us to be coming up short if we allow ourselves to try to be superheroes. 
I thought about the 3 things drop theory and I know all of you have heard it…If you drop one thing, you will continue dropping things until you have dropped 3 things before this saga ends. Today, why don’t we try it out by dropping Worry, Anger, and Sadness! This should take care of the day and allow us to pick up Happiness. God wants and asks us to turn the overwhelming issues over to Him and we should listen. In my life, when I have turned it over to Him, it amazed me how quickly wrongs were made right and old things passed away and there was a brand new day and life.
There is a deeper thought to this message….We have a Super Hero and it is God. He doesn’t tire easily or at all; He doesn’t sleep; He needs no diet to keep him healthy and fit; and He is without weakness or sickness. Why not allow God to handle the things that we find so worrisome. If we take these things like worrying, fretting, or holding grudges, etc. out of our agenda, how much more time would we have to enjoy the good things in life? 


(Lam 3:22-23 NKJV)
Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, Because His compassions fail not. {23} They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness.

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TODAY THE WORDS are SHOULD YOU STAND OR HAND?  Sometimes the inspiration comes from something someone has posted or I heard, and this topic came from a combination of both. What do I mean by “Should You Stand or Hand?” Many people are having a difficult time when personal rights are being challenged and everyone seems to be caught up in the confused state of political correctness (by the way, I will stand on how incorrect political correctness has been interpreted). This topic will be focused on the dilemma whether to stand your ground (this has nothing to do with the Florida law) or hand it over to someone who is not emotionally involved to deal with a situation without the drama or emotions.
If I don’t stand my ground, people will use me; abuse me; misunderstand me or disrespect me.” can be our reaction when someone challenges our way of thinking and/or actions. I can remember when I was younger others’ opinions meant more and they seem to hurt if they were opposite from mine. I felt I had to “make a stand” for any and every thing but as I grew older and hopefully wiser; their comments or opinions became less important. I am not saying I don’t listen to others but this is all I do is listen. I practice a new way of absorbing others’ opinions; I don’t absorb I listen.  When someone now comments or challenges me; it is okay but it doesn’t mean I have to accept their thinking or go to battle with them. I “hand” it over to My Creator who can guide me to either accept this information or disregard it if it is not something I can accept. 
My opinion doesn’t have to agree with your opinion. We are free spirits and have choices to make in this life. Because I may not like something you do or say doesn’t mean I don’t like you. The same goes for you. We can agree to disagree and still respect each other. Life doesn’t mandate us to think alike, act alike, or love alike. What makes it okay is if we treat each other as an intelligent being and at least listen to each other. By listening, we may learn something new or we may disregard it as something adverse to our belief and we can “hand” it back. 
Now for the deeper thought…..We do not have to agree with everyone or every trend or even other’s beliefs. Our faith, our morals, our rights are exactly OURS. Maybe you agree or maybe you don’t but that is your right and it is only defined if you believe in A Higher Power. God gives us a choice to accept Him as Our God so we have to remember we are defined by no man on this earth but Our Heavenly Father. Of course, this is my belief and I do stand on it but if you don’t agree, I am willing to hand it off. Live Life; Love Life; and Live Life to the fullest by choosing how you want to live it as this decision is your decision and your decision will decide whether you have a great life or a miserable one.


Romans 2:6-8 ESV

He will render to each one according to his works: to those who by patience in well-doing seek for glory and honor and immortality, he will give eternal life; but for those who are self-seeking and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, there will be wrath and fury.

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 TODAY THE WORDS are UNITED IN LOVE. REPOSTING MY MESSAGE FROM 2012 (12th Anniversary) I have been asked several times how do you decide what subject to write for the blog. Sometimes, I have no idea until I touch the keyboard and other times, a certain phrase, an event, or a conversation brings one to mind. Today, twelve years ago, I married the love of my life. This was not either’s first marriage and I know both of us loved our previous partners and I am not intending to disrespect the other unions. When Greg and I met, it was love at first sight, and I can imagine several of my readers are saying, “Right?” It was as if we had known each other forever. After both of us being in former relationships, we had to establish some ground rules for this relationship to make it. Love, trust, honesty, and faith had to be part of our daily life and we made a pact to not argue about our blended children. That has been the easiest to follow as I fell in love with his sons and he feels the same about my daughter. We both are assertive persons and along with the love, passion, and life; this was the hardest battle of love. What we found out was we didn’t need to battle; no one was going to win. Then came the deepest decision……we choose not to engage. Do you understand what I mean by not engaging with your spouse? I didn’t ever try this in my former relationships and it is amazing how better a relationship can be if this is practiced. 

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Photo of Greg Miller

Life is a compromise, but one partner cannot be the only one compromising; it has to be a decision as to which times is it important to compromise. Love is meant to be gentle and kind; love is not meant to be a battleground. This time around, Greg and I both agreed to disagree but respect each other. Love to us is having our individual personalities but we been have joined as one as a couple. Both of us want strong partners and therefore we cannot squelch each other’s strengths. When difficult times come, we need each other to be strong if at that time or circumstances, we feel weak. I used to smile at pictures of older couples holding hands, looking tenderly into each other’s eyes, and smiling that special smile at the other one and now, I can see with God’s grace, we could be that couple. With love comes nurturing, supporting, loyalty, trust, honesty, and a little “puppy love” to keep it together. So many of my family and friends were blessed to have their lifetime partner as their only husband or wife; Greg and I had to learn some important lessons in life, love and giving. Happy Anniversary to my wonderful husband, my dear friend, and my lifetime partner. I love you and I happen to like you!

This was the first poem I wrote for Greg in 1999 after we had started seeing each other.
Now for the deeper thought, I wrote this post in 2012 on our anniversary but this morning I decided to re-post because I feel the same way today but even more in love with my husband of now 14 years. Love is to be treasured and never taken for granted. Happy Anniversary to my sweetheart and yes, I would do it all over again.

Genesis 2:24     

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

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TODAY THE WORDS are DUSTY GIFTS. In a dream last night, I saw a lot of gift wrapped packages gathering dust on shelves. Apparently they had been left behind or forgotten. It seemed they had beautiful wrapping and looked like they contained something nice. The dream continued to me thinking whether I should open them or leave them. Would the owner ever come back for them or had they left them behind on purpose? I studied them for a long time and my thoughts came as a good topic for the blog. Here are my thoughts on the DUSTY GIFTS.
In life, have you always been excited about receiving gifts? I have. As a matter of fact, I have opened gifts in secret before I was actually given them because of the big expectation. I had to change that bad habit but I tell you this to show how I love to get a present. I also remember our Mother after she would receive gifts for her birthday or Christmas, she would display them on the bed in the extra bedroom and leave them for about a week before she would use any of them. We kidded her immensely about her stash. She wanted to make sure everyone would see what she had received from people who loved her.
As to the Dusty Gifts in my dream, I envisioned them to be like gifts God gives us in our lives which sometimes we put them on shelves, in drawers, and/or in our hearts and never unwrap them. All of us  see the television shows where people, who are not young, finally recognizing a great talent they have chose to hide until dragged onto a stage. 
So many shy away from displaying a God given talent for fear of being embarrassed or perceived as a failure. Some seem to wrap those gifts in a package and it is my thought we are scared the same way when we don’t know what is in the gift package. Some people are too afraid they are going to disappoint others or themselves if they don’t use what they have been given.
Back to the dream…I decided to open some of the dusty gifts since it looked apparent no one wanted them. Inside were so many treasures, gold jewelry, pearls, statues, old books which were first editions, and on and on. My summary of wasted beauty and items which would be admired if they were on display.
Now for the deeper thought….In my dream when I opened the gifts I could see the beauty in the gifts which had gone unrecognized and lay idly by while the intended recipient went their way in life and nothing good came from the giver’s loving intention. I see the moral of this dream. If we are not appreciative or if we are scared; we have the best gifts of life to sit on a shelf and gather dust. It may mean if we don’t unwrap the gifts we are given; someone else later in life might unwrap our gifts and lavish in the beauty and appreciate what was intended for us. Unwrap God’s gifts by writing your thoughts, singing your song, building something out of nature’s provisions, crochet wonderful gifts, knit or quilt, cook or bake, or do charity or volunteer work. I think you get the idea as the ability to do any of these things are gifts given to you by Our Creator and Let No Gift Gather Dust.

Ecclesiastes 12:7 ESV 

And the dust returns to the earth as it was, and the spirit returns to God who gave it

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TODAY THE WORDS are SHOW A LITTLE LOVE. Today is a good day to show compassion and support for our friends in need. Reach out, say a special prayer, and give love to those hurting. So many times in life, a person can feel that the situation is more than they can bear and all of us know the scriptures that apply but sometimes, God will allow us mortals an opportunity to touch another’s soul and God loves to give what I call double blessings….one to the person in need and the one He chooses to bestow that comfort! 

We wonder what can we do? It can be a phone call, a visit, an email, or text to say you are loved, you are thought of, what can I do, do you want to talk about it, it will be okay, or I am so sorry to hear this. People are not looking for someone to cure the ill, solve the problem, or make the hurt disappear. They usually want the shoulder to cry on, the hug, the love, the understanding and the compassion. 
We live in a world which seems to be growing numb of others’ feelings and/or pain. We have become “conditioned” to a world of violence, name calling, disrespect, obscenities being accepted, and some  have adjusted emotions in a sci-fi manner…if it is not happening to us; it is not happening.
Now for the deeper thought…If it is happening; it is happening to all of us. None of us live in a bubble and what happens to any of us has an effect on all of us. We need each other; no man is an island. Little things may be exactly what someone needs to save their life or their soul. The time we spend on social media can be spent reaching out to someone in need. I am giving myself some self advice on this one. What will it cost to spend a little time with a loved one or even a total stranger. The last time I checked those are not monetary things, but our precious gifts from God and even if we give them away, we never lose anything but gain a blessing from doing something for someone else. Step outside your own problems and find someone in need today. You will feel AWESOME!


Matthew 6:1-4 ESV

“Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven. “Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.

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TODAY THE WORDS are 24 HOURS. Do you ever think about why it was decided twenty four hours would make a day? I may over think things sometimes, but mysteries have always intrigued me with the whys, when, and who, but especially the whys.

 According to Wikipedia, A sundial is a device that measures time by the position of the Sun. It measures local solar time. Before the coming of the railways in the 1830s and 1840s, local time as displayed on a sundial was used by government and commerce.

This may have been the reason due to the division of placement of the sun on the dial. But let us remove ourselves from the historical reason and think about what can happen in 24 hours in our normal daily activity. In any given 24 hours, most of us sleep from 6-8 hours (I understand some of the insomniacs are shaking their heads and would love to experience that many hours, but we are talking averages). We spend about 1 hour (sometimes more) on personal care, such as bathing, styling, dressing, creaming, brushing teeth, etc. When we are among the working class, we usually work 8-10 hours working (or as most bosses say, at least showing up for that many hours; just kidding). So how many hours does that leave us with (taking the max)? Six or Seven hours and what do we do with it? It is those 5, 6, or 7 hours I wonder if we use to the best advantage of life. How many hours do we spend watching TV? How many hours do we spend eating (or overeating)? How many hours do we spend cleaning? How many hours do we read? How many hours do we spend talking about things or people we cannot change? How many hours do we spend with God? How many hours do we spend with our family with quality conversations?

If today, you will stop a “minute” and actually be quiet for that length of time, you will be amazed as I was on how long a minute or 60 seconds really is and that brings me to thinking…..If only a minute is a long period of time and we have at least, 5 hours not obligated to work or sleep or personal care, how can we figure out what is the best way to spend our “free time”. Years ago, and I am going to admit this, I never seemed to find time to “devote” to God’s word or prayer. It wasn’t that I couldn’t have found time; I didn’t take the time. Shame on me! Now, living a different life with no added minutes or hours as I still work, still eat, still take care of myself, still watch TV, read, etc.

Now for the deeper thought…..What can happen in 24 hours? It is your day, your time and your way. I try to remember this: If I take time to thank God for what He does for me and others; If I take time to read His Word; and if I take time to use my time wisely for His Purpose; God will find time while seeing about All His Children to help me when I need help. Live life; love life; and live life to the fullest by spending time wisely!

Matthew 6:6                     
But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.
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