DO WE NEED TO CHECK INTO FOOD REHAB was a great and popular post in 2016. Due to a relapse in our recent eating, I thought it wise to address this issue. The amazing part is this eating life style works and we are back on our wise eating and seeing results. Do you need to check in with us? If so, please read the blog and share it with others. #blog #healthyeating #life #food #lowcarb #happinessthroughhealth #amwriting



The reason for re-posting is I believe in honesty and apparently we had to come back to Food Rehab. In an attempt to relapse into food comas, we chose the wrong foods even after I wrote this and we had both lost weight and thought we had the food addiction whipped. The scales told a different story so this has to be a life style change, a mental determination, and the strongest commitment we had to make to maintain a healthy weight. I give you this confession to affirm this is not easy but here we are again so at least we are aware what we had returned to eating incorrectly is not what we want to do. Everything in this post is on point. I can honestly say it works when we “work at it”. We also know it doesn’t work if you give into temptation and it becomes the norm and not a cheat treat. Here is the original post and to inform you how it works in 1 week I lost 6 pounds and my husband lost over 7 pounds.
FOOD REHAB? DO WE NEED TO CHECK IN? I made a joke remark to my husband that we might qualify as food addicts and it brought me to this thought for the blog. In a society, geared toward commercials, commercial processed food, fitness programs which make us even hungrier, and video recipes showing us in a few seconds how to make a scrumptious dessert; how do we not become food addicts? We see super thin models and now they have embraced being fat as a sexy thing; how are we to know what to think, do or eat?
We are being programmed with a warped sense of how to maintain a healthy weight (notice I didn’t say skinny). In an effort to be politically correct which is a phrase I wish had never come into existence. Now, if someone is satisfied with their body when they are obese; that is their right but it is not healthy. I am not hating on obese people; they are dealing with enough of their demons. I see a lot of people hiding behind a mask of if they pretend they are sexy when they are 400 pounds; they  will be. It is a game of denial and it is time to check into Food Rehab. No one has to be skinny but it stops being healthy when there are layers and layers of fat. Heart attacks and strokes as well as organ damage occurs and it is what it is…..that is not sexy.
If you would choose the one on the right, read this post.
My husband and I have been fighting a weight gain over the years and it kept creeping up year by year. Here is why I am referring to Food Rehab; pretending to eat healthy. We had “pretended” to buy healthy; cook healthy; and exercise while indulging in occasional desserts, carbs, and just junk. We offset our minds it was not a regular thing; so we ate and we gained and we gained and we went into denial. I did lose 22 pounds over a long period of time but had I not been a Food Addict; that should have been 50!
The reason I am being up front and in my own face is a little over 2 weeks ago; Greg and I checked into Miller Rehab Center for Food Addicts and here was the sign in sheet for us:
1) Clean out that pantry….If it is there; we will eat it. Like an addict, if the drug of choice is lying on the table next to the addict how much harder is it to resist it?
2) Good food shopping trip…….We find it easier to prepare, cook, or snack healthy if we have healthy in the house.
3) Prep the good food snacks…..Clean, cut and have celery, carrots, fruits, and raw nuts, seeds, etc in zip lock bags or containers when the urge to snack, these items can help distract us. It is like an AA meeting for food addicts, a reminder of the goal to stay away from the harmful things.
4) Talk and kid about your goals….One of the most encouraging parts is our “Sponsor” idea. We encourage, support, and kid about our progress or lack of (all of you out there trying know what I am talking about). It is nice to hear my husband joke and say, “One great thing, is when I lose this weight; I have a new wardrobe in the closet!” Humor makes the changes more fun while we are getting in shape for more fun as healthier and fitter people.
5) Tune in to your inner self…..It is not fitness gurus or programs; it is not changing your eating until you change your mind. One of the things I do for myself and it is not for vanity (or maybe it is more pride in how we look) is I look back at pictures and some clothes I saved from the days when I was fit. I remember those days of jogging and walking and being able to breathe while I did those healthy exercising.
6) Be real with yourself……It is not going to happen over night. There is not a magic wand to make it disappear. One of the most deceitful thoughts we can have after it has taken years to get overweight is to think it will go away if we eat right one day……Doesn’t happen that way, folks. The good news with some changes, it does start to go away…..The Millers are proof of this method. Greg has lost 7 pounds in 2 1/2 weeks. I am now officially off 25 pounds and headed for the next 25 pounds.
Here are what we had to leave at the door of the Miller Food Addict Rehab Center and these methods have been around so no secret formulas to help get us through but they are working:
1) Breads had to go. Along with the breads, they had company Pastas (except the veggie), Sugars, Flour.
2) Water took the place of tea (even with Stevia) and we have one cup of Coffee in the morning. It is amazing the more we drink water, the less hungry we are without so many cravings either. If there is magic in healthy eating, it is the water. Half your weight in ounces is how much water to consume. The skin gets better, you don’t feel sluggish, and it is the river of good health.
3) I passed over Sugar but I cannot reiterate how important this step is. The more sugar we eat; the more of everything we want. Give it up with only an occasional treat (not meaning everyday treats either). Small portions of fruit (the ones with fiber and chewing are best)
4) Healthy snacks instead of junk food. Prepare small pieces of an apple or nuts. We have celery and carrots in ziploc bags ready in the refrigerator and we get our chomp-chomp from these. Healthy crackers are the only bread with peanut butter are in a container already made (not store bought) and if we get extra hungry, one will suffice and kill that urge to go rogue!
5) And this should have been Number #1, ATTITUDE. As I said in the beginning, the mind is portion control center. Get on the weight loss train and be the good food conductor and soon, you will be concentrating on the positive side of healthy instead of the woe is me victim syndrome. I made the comment the other day “I am not upset by the things I can no longer eat; I have already eaten more than a lifetime quantity of them.”
6) Encourage others but don’t patronize them if they haven’t made up their minds. I have been guilty thinking I was encouraging friends by expressing “That’s alright; you will do better or You can start over tomorrow.” Enabling is not encouraging. Maybe “You royally messed up and now you need to get serious” is what we need to say.
7) New tip since original post: Make foods attractive. Healthier food looks better when plated with some arrangement and colorful placement. I am posting a slide show of healthy food presentation for you to get the idea. It makes you want to eat healthy.

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Good eating; get real; acknowledge the food addiction; prepare the intervention by changing the foods in your home; and be prepared for a free from got to have food life so you can enjoy life to the fullest.
Until we eat and read again…….Arline Miller, author of Sipping Cups of Inspiration and A MISTRESS, A WIFE, novel
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DON’T BE CAUGHT IN YOUR OWN TRAP is one of my favs as some of us find ourselves being persuaded by others, celebrities, politicians, and even religious leaders to be a certain way, look a particular style, think the way they want you to think, and it is somewhat bullying. Be yourself, think for yourself, learn from your own mistakes or others you respect. This is one for the books and feel free to comment and share the blog with others. #blog #life #positivity #inspiration #love #uniqueness #spiritual


TODAY THE WORD is TRAPS.  This morning, I had the thought of how trappers set traps to catch the animals. These traps are usually cruel entrapment and a lot of suffering occurs before death. I am not speaking this morning for animal rights (protective advocates are actively seeking protection for this practice). I want to talk about a different kind of trap…..the human trap we set for ourselves. Bear with me, as you know I am a positive person and my thoughts will lead us there in a few minutes.
So many young girls set a trap for themselves by allowing peers to put the bait on the trap and encourage the others to follow. Indeed too much pressure to look a certain way, weigh a certain amount, dress a certain way and act a certain way. Once the trap is sprung, the girls have to be molded and therefore a life style is set. Let me say this for the young girls being tempted to go this route and this has been an observation over many years; the girls in high school that usually are the most prettiest, most popular, and the most petite find out that once in the real adult world, they will need more than just looks. Sometimes, the girls who don’t blossom as early, seem to take on a radiance later in life. Once in a while, you will see some that spring the trap and release themselves from a life of being a diva and that is inspiring.
The trick is not to get “trapped” in life and to realize how special each one of us is to Our Maker, our families and our friends. Anyone who critiques another may be a little jealous as it is not always just looks people measure others by. A great sense of humor; great talents; great athletic ability; ability to communicate easily; and other abilities that shine may be a threat to those who depend solely on looks. The life trap with its bait of popularity is intriguing  to most young people; it is deadly if other traits and abilities are not added to a person’s life. External beauty usually fades and the methods some use to try to stay young sometimes come back to haunt the person. Internal beauty radiates stronger as the source of the glow ages.
Here is an article I found that has some wonderful, thought provoking quotes :

What do Susan Boyle, Paul Potts and J K Rowling all have in common – apart from they happen to be British? Their success did not come about overnight, or easily. Not for any of them came instant fame, and recognition in the spotlight.

“The soul is placed in the body like a rough diamond, and must be polished,
or the luster of it will never appear”

Daniel Defoe


No matter how frustrated, troubled or dispirited on the surface, deep down everyone I have met is truly extraordinary. However hidden, the human spirit, the diamond is always there; in you, in me.

For many of us, these times are rough. Perhaps now we can come to know and appreciate more fully our capacity for endurance and the brightness of our human spirit. What is more, we can take the polishing more into our own hands.


Here are some tips you might like to consider:


1. Know what you want

Maybe you have a talent you have longed to express and develop. If not, you probably know how you would like to be experiencing your life – perhaps with more happiness, better communications with the ones you love, greater fulfilment in your work.

Knowing is deeper and stronger than wishful thinking or hoping. It is a conviction so solid that you can base your life on it.

“There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self.”
Benjamin Franklin


2. Engage with your intention

Daily nurture your vision – see, feel, hear how you will be experiencing the fulfilment of your the life you want, both inwardly and in the world. Use your imagination.

J K Rowling’s Commencement Speech at Harvard is inspiring and real:

Watch Part 2 here and Part 3 here.


3. Practice your passion – take action

If you have a talent, keep working with it. If you would like to be happier, do things that make you happy. Better communications? Be willing to learn, practise, improve – and make mistakes from time to time. Your intention will speak volumes. Fulfillment? Adjust your attitude.

“Nothing will work unless you do.” 
Maya Angelou


4. Raise your energy – turn up the heat

Love yourself and be grateful for all you have in your life, right now. Pay attention to your blessings. Look up. Learn to forgive and laugh at the mistakes you make along the way. Each day, feel the enthusiasm for your vision, as if it has already happened. Stay open for the remarkable to take place. It will.

“There are two ways to live your life – one is as though nothing is a miracle,
the other is as though everything is a miracle.”

Albert Einstein


5. Gather positive people around you

At the very least, spend time with people who are supportive and for you. Enrich yourself by getting to know others who are actively creating the best for themselves, and learn from them.

“If you have zest and enthusiasm you attract zest and enthusiasm.
Life does give back in kind.” 

Norman Vincent Peale


6. Get rid of what is unnecessary

Clear the clutter! Live lean with only that which you need around you. The feeling of freedom you gain will liberate you closer to what you really want.


7. Organize yourself for success

Find ways of dealing with life’s necessities so that you are not distracted by them. Only agree to do what you will actually do. Learn to say no to what does not fit for you.

“If we did all the things we are capable of doing,
we would literally astound ourselves.”

Thomas A Edison


8. Set no time limits

Learn to live in the present moment and respond to your intuitive guidance. There are times when to act; times when to hold. You will get to know which is which.

“We have time enough if we will but use it right.”
Johann Wolfgang von Geothe


9. Believe in yourself – believe in your vision

Feeling doubtful? In these challenging times, young children may teach us something. As adults, we can also be persistent in going for what we value.

Consider the words of Imogen, walking with her father in the park, and Stephanie, her tv heroine:

So I’m in the park with my just-turned-three-year-old daughter when she asks:

Daddy, can I have an ice cream?
I don’t think we have time. We’ve got to go soon.
There is always a way, Daddy.
Stephanie says, there is always a way!
Who says?

“A visionary is one who can find his way by moonlight,
and see the dawn before the rest of the world.”

Oscar Wilde


10. Treasure yourself

Do the things that show you care for yourself: eat foods that serve your body; drink plenty of water; get enough sleep; exercise regularly; make time and space for fun; stay focussed on your vision and intention. Taking care of your health is a wise investment of your time and attention.

“The diamond you are, you wear within you. You can call on its beauty and power when you want to stand forward and dazzle.” 
Random Soul 7

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Now for the deeper thought……It is deep……Life is to embrace our uniqueness as that is from what we grow and illuminate the world. Here is my example of what I am embracing: All of us have seen pictures of Mother Theresa, a plain looking women, who came from abundant and affluent heritage and who gave up all to serve. Is she not beautiful to view? Look at her picture and see how her internal beauty radiates and allows you to see past the wrinkles and the plain attire. She sprung her trap and with that freedom, has found her place among a semblance of saint. Today, release yourself from the trap and feel the freedom to be yourself.
And take heed to yourselves, lest at any time your hearts be overcharged with surfeiting, and drunkenness, and cares of this life, and so that day come upon you unawares.
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Sometimes we need to be reminded that it is okay not to be perfect. Today we discuss whether we consider ourselves inspirational or do we see ourselves spiritual. Please join me on the blog and share this inspiration with others. #blog #inspiration #spiritual #amwriting #life #personaldevelopment #love


TODAY THE WORDS are INSPIRATIONAL or SPIRITUALThis topic came to my heart and I wanted to share my thoughts on this question. There are a lot of inspirational writers, speakers, and ordinary people who are extra-ordinarily full of inspiration. This does not mean they are without a spiritual side. When I think of a spiritual person, I think and feel the aura of a Higher Power at play. Does a spiritual person always have to be a minister, pastor, evangelist, holy man, priest, Rabbi, monk, etc? Not necessarily, but they are definitely in the spiritual ranking. Have you ever had a conversation with an elderly person who speaks of their life experiences for the purpose of encouraging others, especially younger folks? They are filled with inspiration using their “mistakes” of life and how that taught them how to be a better person. Not every one of them share their spiritual experiences; some of them do. We, then have the spiritual forerunners, Franklin Graham, John Hagee, Joel Osteen,  Joyce Myers, Wayne Dyers, and others, who are inspirational in all of their messages and sermons. Several ones in today’s world come to my mind immediately and they accomplish both missions at one time.

Definitions from Merriam Webster for Inspiration and Spiritual

Simple Definition of inspiration
: something that makes someone want to do something or that gives someone an idea about what to do or create : a force or influence that inspires someone
: a person, place, experience, etc., that makes someone want to do or create something
: a good idea

Simple Definition of Spiritual
: of or relating to a person’s spirit
: of or relating to religion or religious beliefs
: having similar values and ideas : related or joined in spirit

When I started this blog, it went toward the inspirational format but God had His way of providing His Spiritual message and plopped it right in the message. I have never claimed to be anything but me.



Do we become more spiritual as we age? Here is an excerpt from an article. I pulled only the part that pertained to senior spirituality but you may want to read the entire article by clicking on the title.





Does Spirituality Become More Important As You Age?

For many people, spirituality does become more important. But it’s a highly individualized experience. No two people are the same. We all have distinct needs, perceptions, personalities, and life histories. Some seniors see aging itself as a spiritual journey, whereas others turn to spiritual development as a way to find more richness, meaning, inner strength, or comfort in their lives as they reflect on the past and think about what’s still to come.

Many factors can affect a senior’s desire to explore more of his or her spirituality. For example, a senior or elderly American may be drawn closer to spirituality or religious faith because of factors like:

  • Retirement—This stage of life often comes with big changes to our daily activities, the roles we play, and the way we see ourselves. Although it is often an exciting and fulfilling time, it can also feel unfamiliar. That’s particularly true for people who retire from full-time careers or who no longer spend the bulk of their time raising or supporting a family.
  • Grieving—As we get older, more of our friends and family members are likely to pass away. As a result, we may go through the grieving process more frequently than when we were younger. Faith or spirituality can provide us with extra stability as we cope with the loss of our loved ones and reflect on what they’ve meant to us.
  • Decreased independence—Another reason why aging and spirituality are so closely linked is that many of us experience some physical decline during our later years. We may need assistance with certain aspects of everyday living, which can make us feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. We may even wonder who we’ve become if the way we perceive ourselves doesn’t match reality. Spirituality can help us bridge that gap.
  • Increased time to reflect—One of the gifts of getting older is that we often have more time each day to ponder the mysteries of life and reflect on everything we’ve done so far. We get to review our achievements as well as our setbacks while beginning to recognize a meaningful narrative that ties it all together. We may even start to see deeper connections between our life and the lives of people from past or future generations. In fact, one major aspect of the spirituality of aging is that, upon extra reflection, our perspective may shift in surprisingly profound and positive ways.
  • A growing awareness of one’s own mortality—Many of us fear passing away. We don’t know what the experience will be like or whether our spirit (or soul) will continue to live on. Will our consciousness remain intact? What will happen to the loved ones we leave behind? Have we created a meaningful legacy that will live on? What will we be remembered for? Spirituality or religious faith can help us make peace with our mortality.

As part of their experiences with aging and spirituality, seniors may adopt new habits or ways of living. For example, many spiritually inclined seniors:

  • Place more focus on their inner lives than on external expectations
  • Speak from their hearts more frequently
  • Put more effort into making meaningful connections with other people
  • Develop more patience and attentiveness
  • Seek more opportunities for silence and solitude
  • Change their perception of time by living more in the moment
  • Allow more time for reflection, sharing, and loving

Based on a nationwide survey from 2014 by the Pew Research Center, religion is very popular among older adults. In fact, 85 percent of Americans above the age of 65 rated religion as either very or somewhat important—the highest percentage of all age groups. In addition, among people who were 65 or older:1

  • 74 percent said they believe in heaven
  • 70 percent said they believe in God with absolute certainty
  • 65 percent said they pray at least once a day
  • 56 percent said they believe in hell
  • 48 percent said they attend religious services at least weekly
  • 40 percent said they use religion as their main source of moral guidance

So, what are the most popular religions? When it comes to American adults above the age of 65, Christian religions are the most widely practiced. About 83 percent of people in this age group described themselves as Christians. More specifically:1

  • 29 percent said they were Evangelical Protestant
  • 24 percent said they were Catholic
  • 22 percent said they were Mainline Protestant

People in other Christian religions, such as historically black Protestants and Mormons, represented much smaller percentages (six percent and one percent, respectively). About five percent of seniors over age 65 identified with non-Christian faiths such as:1

  • Judaism—3 percent
  • Buddhism—1 percent
  • Islam—less than 1 percent
  • Hinduism—less than 1 percent

The remaining 12 percent of older adults in this age group had no religious affiliations. In fact, two percent of them described themselves as atheists, and another two percent of them said they were agnostic.1


Now for the deeper thought…….God can take a positive person and through His wisdom, use that same person for His mission and not theirs. Sometimes, the inspirational message can be used as a spiritual tool. My thought….we can be both by living the word of God. We can inspire people to be the best they can be and while they are making the changes I felt led to make in my life, they are becoming more spiritual. There can be a big difference between inspirational and spiritual; there can sometimes be no difference. When God plants a seed, all we have to do is water it for it to grow. I am inspired by so many others who are traveling down life’s path and share their thoughts and experiences with me and others. Whatever we are; we are that by the grace of God. Allow Him to use us for his Good. Without Him, we struggle and are not the extra-ordinary people He knows we can be.

Ephesians 4:29

Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear.
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SCRAMBLE EGGS NOT BRAINS is a nice way for us to discuss the level headed, with common sense with courtesy and fairness as the spatula to stir up a wonderful and productive dish of life. Please join me on the blog and share it with others. #blog #commonsense #amwriting #life #fairness #getonwithliving