Sorry for the absence lately, but I am in the writer’s review and editing segment of my final book in the series of Reflections of Love which will be titled Riddle Me This, Love or Bliss. It is coming down to the wire and I am pleased with this book for several reasons and one of those reasons has to do with the title and focus of this blog, BE REAL OR GET REAL. So, let’s dive in.

I love this sign which tells it like it is. Courtesy of

Most of you who follow this blog have heard the story of how I wanted to write a book in my younger years. Mind you, I didn’t say I wanted to be a writer….two distinctions which brings me to the focus. I have said many times, there is a book inside everyone as we have a story to tell. Not everyone has the desire to put their story out there. I have written and published two books and neither are about my life. This third one is based on the story in the first two books. I find writing fiction easier. Why? If I took my life story, it would be a good book or at least I think it would be.

So, why don’t I write it? Probably to keep my life private. Is that the reason some of you who most likely have best seller life stories don’t write about them. Let’s get real…….Why? I think the best reason is we are not confident in some of the decisions we have made in life. Let us dig a little deeper on this part of the thought provoking process by asking ourselves a few questions that were obtained in the following article:

13 Questions To Ask Yourself To Identify The Right Goal

Forbes Coaches Council

Forbes Coaches CouncilCOUNCIL POST | Paid ProgramLeadership

Thirteen members of Forbes Coaches Council share the questions that individuals should ask themselves to identify the right goal on their path to success. ALL PHOTOS COURTESY OF FORBES COUNCILS MEMBERS.

1. What’s The Purpose?

To ensure you’re creating goals that are genuinely right for you, ask yourself, “What is the purpose behind my goal? Is it a goal I want to pursue or feel like I have to pursue?” If you feel that you have to pursue the goal, then get rid of it. If it’s a goal you want to pursue, continue to remind yourself why it’s important to you. What value in your life is this goal honoring? – Rosie GuagliardoInnerBrilliance Coaching

2. What Does A Successful Outcome Look And Feel Like?

Start with the end in mind and imagine you have already reached your desired outcome fully and completely. What are the major milestones that helped you get there? By asking these questions, you can identify the big rocks that will lead to your ultimate outcome rather than get stuck in the quicksand of minutiae. – Michela QuiliciMQ Consulting and Business Training Inc.

3. What Would My Life Look Like If I Achieved My Goals?

This one question will lead to additional questions as you try to get clarity about where you really want to go. Do the goals align with your values? Is the goal something you really want, or are you trying to live someone else’s dream? The more questions you ask yourself, the closer you will get to an answer. – Daisy WrightThe Wright Career Solution

4. What’s My Greatest Superpower?

The art of the self-question is one of the most incredible superpowers we have. Unfortunately, many of us don’t use this power consciously. Heading in the best direction requires you to understand what’s best for you. “Who am I?” (emphasis on the “I”) is one powerful way to illuminate this. Spend a lot of time exploring this question, and choosing the right goals and directions will be easy. – Derrick BassClarity Provoked

5. Why Is This My Goal?

Why will this goal change your life, business, dreams and finances? If you ask why about everything you’re doing in your life, you will better gauge what is really going to help you succeed. Once you know why you’re doing something, you’ll be able to be less vague. If you’re vague in your goals, you’ll be vague in your results. This will make you feel as though you’ve failed. – Stephynie MalikChiqueSpeak

6. What Do I Ultimately Want To Achieve?

The key is to identify your end goal and focus on actionable steps to meet that goal. Once you’ve fleshed out what you truly want for your life, career, business, etc., you can then uncover the building blocks for the most successful outcome. Every step you take now and in the future should align with the bigger picture. – Lakrisha DavisLakrisha Davis & Co.

7. What’s My Ideal Job Description?

When working with burned-out doctors, the first step is to change their focus by 180 degrees. They are laser-focused on what they don’t like in their job and are actively running away from these pain points. Success in stopping burnout and putting them back in a career with purpose requires building their ideal job description and then making sure they’re always moving in that direction. – Dike Drummond MDThe Happy MD LLC

8. What Are My Values?

Investing time and resources in knowing your values is critical. Once you’re clear on your values, make your calendar match. Spend time on things that are truly important in moving toward your goals, and learn to ignore distractions. This ensures that when you achieve success, it will be fulfilling to you. – Jean Ali MuhlbauerPeople at Work

9. What Drives Me?

Understanding yourself is the first step toward identifying the right goals for you. Until you know what drives you, it’s hard to drive yourself in the best direction. First, clearly define where you want to go. Then, ask yourself why you want this, what you will achieve and what challenges you will face along the way. Define and tackle the steps needed to obtain your ultimate goal. – Erin UrbanUPPSolutions LLC

10. What Do Others Say About My Goals?

Even leaders who are self-aware will benefit from asking someone else for help with identifying their next goal. Pick a trusted colleague who knows you well and will give fair, candid insight. Be specific when asking them for advice by saying, “What is one thing I should start, stop or change that will enable me to be more effective in my career?” By going outside of yourself, you expand your resources so you can head in the best direction. – Loren MargolisTraining & Leadership Success LLC

11. Where Do I Want To Land?

When setting goals, it’s important to understand the long game. Where do you want to end up? Many times we set goals based on 5- or 10-year goals instead of charting a course for the next 20 or 30 years, including retirement or your second career. What skills and experiences do you need to build to not only be successful in your current career but also to find success afterward? – LaKesha WomackWomack Consulting Group

12. Is My Goal SMART?

Is it specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time bound? If it’s not, then go back to the drawing board. – Kimberly BuchananThe Buchanan Group – Professional Coaching for Professional Women

13. What’s The Big Picture?

Ideally, goals are in support of a higher purpose, so it’s time for some soul-searching. What is your reason for being on this earth? What and who matter to you more than anything or anyone else? Imagine it’s many years in the future, and you are reflecting on the arc of your life. What do you want to see? Whatever the answer, start setting goals now that will get you there. – Gary BradtBradt Leadership Inc.

The concept behind the book cover of my latest book. It is a Work in Progress but when published, my goal of telling a story from start to finish will be completed. Will my writing be completed, stay tuned.

Blogger’s Note: The first goal anyone should make is to Be Real as no one knows us better than we do. Work on the weaker skills, research to be more knowledgeable, and then put the metal to the pedal and Really Do It….Arline Miller, blogger and author

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This is a post I wrote in 2014 but with all of the attention to the hurricane Dorian devastating the Bahamas with its deadly force and destruction, I remembered my fears about incoming waves. Let us pray for those who have suffered from this hurricane and may God’s mercy follow the people in harm’s way along the coast of the United States.

TODAY THE WORDS are INCOMING WAVES. I found it a little strange that ocean waves entered my mind, especially with the change of weather to the fall season with cooler temperatures. This can be a great time to visit the ocean without a large audience, but it can also be very cool with the ocean winds and the cooler temperatures. My mind went to a time as a child being at the ocean and my experiences with the waves and it takes me to the topic today.   My family lived in a small town of Douglas, GA for most of my life with the exception of about 4 years in Chicago. I am not sure how many of you will know how land locked Douglas is; but it is about 2 hours from any beach so visiting the ocean/beach was not on our regular agenda. However, I remember the visits to Jacksonville Florida, where we visited my Mother’s sister and husband. In those days, very few hotel or motel stays were budgeted so we stayed with family. My aunt and uncle were great hosts and we loved our time spent with them and our cousins. We had fun at the beach but I do have a memory which could have spoiled the trip.  

I have never been a water bug; never have I felt comfortable in water, lakes, ponds, and especially the ocean. The waves, and the rushing of the sand shifting under my feet made me more uncomfortable. I felt I was losing my balance: I felt I was going to fall and be swept out to sea; and I felt scared of what might be under the water waiting to have me for lunch. Oh, I know as an adult, these fears were childish but nevertheless; they were very real when I was little. When I would be turned toward the shore and a big, unexpected wave would almost knock me down; I felt a slight fear of terror. Some of you who are reading this are probably thinking how foolish my fears were or maybe not.  

Now for the deeper thought…….as the ocean is deep, so are some of our fears; they are deeply implanted in our minds. As a child, I felt fear and it felt very real; but with time those fears have somewhat diminished into childhood memories. While maturing in life, I found it very therapeutic to face my fears. I found out that fears experienced early in life can be eliminated by realizing how, with time, the waves don’t knock me down  and even if they do; I can stand back up and enjoy the water’s beauty and I listen to the beautiful melody and tranquil song the waves make as they splash against the rocks or beach. Life has changed and our thoughts and even fears change with lives. Live life; love life; and live life to the fullest by casting your fears aside and hear the music God created for us to enjoy.


Psalm 107:23-25 ESV

Some went down to the sea in ships, doing business on the great waters; they saw the deeds of the Lord, his wondrous works in the deep. For he commanded and raised the stormy wind, which lifted up the waves of the sea. 

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TODAY THE WORDS are WHAT IS THERE TO SAY? So many times we find ourselves in an awkward position whether it is at home, work, church, or even at a store. It may be during a casual conversation or a deeply emotional talk and there it happens…..the awkward moment of “what is there to say” or “I don’t know what to say” or the one which is the most awkward feeling, “if I say this, it is going to really make them mad.” I feel almost everyone of us have been in this type of moment and usually more times than we would like. You find yourself with a feeling “I need to respond to this” but what do I say? I speak for myself only, but there are more of you out there who have experienced an occurrence when you see or hear something you cannot agree with or you have a total different belief from the person who is speaking. What do you do? Do you nod your head as if you agree or do you state your honest belief? Do you change the subject? Do you pretend you didn’t hear what they said? Even as I write an uncomfortable feeling is going over me recalling several incidents in which I didn’t know what to do.

Here is an excerpt from Psychology Today on this subject:

9 Ways to Be There for a Friend Without Giving Advice

Does that mean you should say nothing when a friend or relative faces a dilemma?

I don’t think so. While it’s dangerous to give advice, it’s also dangerous, and perhaps unkind, to say nothing or to back away from a friend’s need to talk about a painful situation. Your withdrawal could be interpreted as cold and distancing, or, worse, uncaring. Even if you end up feeling that you haven’t helped much, many friends feel grateful just because you’ve been willing to take the time to help grapple with their issues. That accomplishment will make you both feel better. That’s the upside.

But before you dive in to help, there are at least five more difficult truths to consider.

  1. An adult has the right to make their own decisions about their life. Ultimately what they do is their choice. (For the purposes of this blog, I’m assuming the person is 25 or over—that is, with complete brain development and in possession of all their faculties—and that there is no risk to anyone’s life or limb involved.) 
  2. The other person has to live with the decisions they make. You don’t.
  3. You can never really know the totality of another person’s situation. What they tell you may be the tip of their personal iceberg.
  4. If you have a stake in the outcome of your friend’s action, maybe you can’t be unbiased. Like an honorable judge, recuse yourself from the case.
  5. You have likely made some bad decisions in your own life. If you remind yourself of this fact, it will keep you humble and avoid a superior, “I know best” stance.


Here is what I have done……all of the above at one time or another and I am still not sure if I did the right action in each case.    My belief is we do have to give an unwelcome answer or have an unwelcome conversation at times in our lives. It should be an important reason to engage in these types of conversations and not for selfish reasons and/or stubbornness. I mentioned to someone the other day when I was growing up, my Mother got on my case many times and she hurt my feelings most of those times. She didn’t stop when I grew up and became an adult. She told it like it was, and as much as it hurt or even angered me at the time; wisdom has set in and it has become clearer as the years go by; she was right in those times in her intent. How I perceived it was due to my former state of mind at the time. Oh, I reacted as most of us do and shied away from her, pouting as some of us say, but here is what I know. My Mother loved us and sacrificed for all of her children. She only scolded and taught us the right way to do things because she loved us. Did her “mouth whippings” sting? Oh yes they did. Did they help me? Oh yes they did.   

The deeper thought in this message is…..What is there to say? When a conversation has stinging words in them, and if possible, listen to the message and turn off the emotions. If we listen with love and if we talk with love; it will come out in a positive result. It is like a bee sting I received as a child from sticking my nose in every flower bud to smell them; I got stung and it hurt like heck but I learned an important lesson which I never forgot. Something may smell good, but it can contain a sting.. Have a wonderful day. 


1 John 3:18 ESV 

Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.

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On my blog, I try to not promote my books since most of my readers are looking for inspirational or life lessons, but this thought came to me because I am closing in on the ending of my third and final book in a series Reflections of Love. Again, this is not to isolate this blog message into a self promotion, but I have learned a life lesson writing this last book and I thought I would share it with you. You may find this applicable to many other projects or efforts.

As a teenager, I made a typical statement without giving it much thought and only because I loved to read. When I would read a book, I wasn’t thinking of criticism but admiration. I felt if I could write a book, then it would be a mountain high accomplishment. I said to anyone who would listen “Someday I will write a book.” I left it at that point without giving it more thought. I didn’t choose a genre either.

As I went through life, gaining a lot of life experience by working, marrying and having a child, visiting foreign countries, obtaining management jobs, and all the while never giving writing a second thought other than a few special poems for my Mother. I have heard the expression “It hit me like a bolt out of the blue” but my experience was more like a light itch that wouldn’t go away. Then it happened. After two divorces and a commitment to never marry again, I found myself writing in longhand to begin with, a suspenseful romance novel with a lot of twists. Call it having a lot of time on my hands. I allowed several people to read what I had written and some encouraged me. Others found my look at realism of life was a little strong for the weak stomach. I found myself putting it away but kept the pages.

Preview of third novel in Reflections of Love Series and will soon be completed for publishing.

Years later, with a change in my relationship status to happily married, I came across the pages. I thought to myself, “You said you would write a book one day and that day is here.” I found it easy to find excuses to have absences from disciplined writing sessions but somehow that book would keep me scratching that writer’s itch and one day I said to myself, “You are either going to finish that book or throw it away.” My choice was to write it and “A Mistress, A Wife” was born. Not to boast, but I was proud to get the first review of 5 Stars and then more came.

I don’t know if I planned consciously for a sequel but my readers wanted more and the next book came “Tell Me Lies; Love Me Still” came easier or I made the appropriate measures to fit in therapy for my writer’s itch. I loved writing this one as I had learned from the first novel so even the editing was smoother. Okay, now is the reason for this post…….Both books were 5 Star with only one 3.5 Star Reviews. I realized a third and final book to complete the story was necessary. I had been a good student of expression and found I have a passion for twists and turns and giving the reader a reason to try to figure out what happens next. This was the hook. I found myself writing “Riddle Me This, Love or Bliss?”

My first book signing event with some of the attendees, my friends. A Moment in Time for me.

When I ask the title question of this blog, IS THE THIRD TIME A CHARM?It definitely is a charm for my third marriage as I am blessed with a wonderful, supportive husband. I am asking myself that question about writing. This book has given me a pause for the cause and I have asked myself more life enhancing questions as to what is the drive behind the writing. I have written a lot of poetry, one failed attempt at songwriting, have blogged for 7 years, gave more advice only from making so many mistakes I felt like an expert, and now finishing this book. What makes me write?

See if you can relate……The Deeper Thought: I love to share feelings, good and intense feelings. Whether it is any of my writing outlets, I have a lot of spirit in me and I think most of us do. We express it in different outlets. Some sing; some write; some paint; some orate; some network. All in all, we love to communicate some of our spirit to others. Maybe that is why a butterfly flits and flutters around us as that may be their form of communication with humans and animals. Maybe a cloud changes shapes to get our attention. Maybe a flower blooms and then dissipates to cause emotion of missing them when they are gone. The third time or any time we pause and consider we need each other in some form, it is a charm.

I have fun creating the covers almost as much as writing. The third book will have a mirror embedded into the question mark. Have fun with your dream!

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This morning, I woke up and wasn’t as high energy as normally I am and turned on the news and everything was negative with the current political world with either anger, distrust, fantasy cures, and I turned it off. To watch any more, I would have to have rose colored glasses to stand all the rhetoric from all sides so this is not aimed at anyone. I am now looking for rose colored glasses or maybe find some extra common, logical sense to lend them. While thinking this thought, I found a post from years ago and for some reason, it fits today. I hope you get the point of my message. Here goes:

WHERE DID MY ROSE COLORED GLASSES GO? Once in a while I will have a topic come to me without outside influence. When talking to my daughter, the topic of people seeing life for what it really is. Even though we want to think the best of people, we have to have eyes wide open and minds in sync with reality. Years ago, I took off my rose colored glasses. I hope I will never need them again.  John Conlee wrote a beautiful song and I used to sing it a lot. I actually bought a pair of rose colored sunglasses at a time when this was a fashion trend (not that I was such a fashioniva). So many things were distorted in my life at this particular time in my life. One verse now comes to mind in a different context:

So I just keep on hopin’, believingThat maybe by counting the many times, I’ve triedYou’ll believe me when I say, I love youAnd I’ll lay these rose colored glasses aside.

Courtesy: John Conlee – Rose Colored Glasses Lyrics | MetroLyrics

Here is an excerpt from an article I find helpful in our discussion:

Be positive but stay realistic

How do you think and feel about the past, the present and the future?

Do you tend to see the good side and the opportunities or do you tend to focus on the problems and things that might go wrong?

How realistic are you being?

All of this matters for how happy and satisfied we are with our livesWHY DO IT?

People who are optimistic tend to be happier, healthier and cope better when times are tough. So there are a lot of advantages to looking at the world through a positive lens and focusing on the things that are good. However, it’s possible to be unrealistically optimistic which isn’t a good thing. And it’s certainly not helpful to put a positive spin on everything or pretend that things are fine if they’re clearly notWhether we are naturally an optimist or more of a pessimist, it’s impossible to know what the future holds. So perhaps the best of both worlds is to be a realistic optimist – someone who tends to maintain a positive outlook, but within the constraints of what they know about the world.Whether we tend to be optimistic or pessimistic is part of our personality, and can be hard to change – but it is possible. We can become more conscious of our own patterns of thought and learn skills to help us be more flexible in our outlook.Source: ACTION FOR HAPPINESS

By thinking of those lines, I think of God singing this lyric to all of His Children who hesitate to believe how much God loves us and how many times He has tried to show us and most of us live with rose colored glasses on trusting in ourselves only and not giving God the credit for all of the good things in our lives. John Conlee didn’t have this idea in his mind but doesn’t it fit for any of us who refuse to take off the rose colored glasses of life which distort the truth and take us down paths we don’t need to go? I am thankful for pulling off those rose colored glasses and seeing, believing, and trusting in God’s truth. I can now see how many times GOD tried to show me how much He loves me and you. Today, I dived into the deeper thought by the message itself, but I leave you with this thought. God’s love is deeper than any ocean, wider than any river, and higher than any mountain and is everlasting! 


1 Peter 3:3-4Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 

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Yesterday, a good friend of my husband jokingly asked what was the name of our new restaurant. While I was explaining how I love to cook for my man, our kids, the grands, and when we have company, I would never consider cooking for a living. I have the utmost respect for those who have chosen that occupation. This lively conversation took me back to this blog and I thought I would share it with my readers in case some missed it.

PERILS OF BEING A GREAT COOK is a comical look at being a Southern Cook. This morning my husband and I were having a chuckle over our weigh in. Now, it is not literally funny as we both would prefer losing some weight and the topic went to how he explains to people why he is heavier now than when they all went to school……”My wife is such a great cook and I don’t want to disappoint her.” It brings us to our blog topic.

Let’s look at the benefits of Southern Cooking or in reality any regional cooking style that puts the fluff on our bods!

This is not a holiday meal but a good Sunday Southern meal.

Ways to laugh about a Southern Cook reason to cook:

1- We cook a lot of food as if we are cooking our last meal or in case the power goes out. We fuss about all of the food in the refrigerator but that is really bragging on our part.

2- If our food receives compliments, and we have leftovers; we can hear the same compliments again. In reality everyone is thinking, “Are we eating the same thing over and over?”

3- We believed the saying “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” as gospel. We tell our husbands that if something happens to us, they better not be trying to find a pretty wife but one who can cook like us.

4- We want to win the competition when men gather and start talking about which one has the best cook and they try to name more good dishes we cook. We don’t want to hear about how many fish they caught but how much they bragged on our cooking.

5- We want to hear the “I ate too much” groan as they slide on the recliner with the follow up line “I need a nap to wear this off.” We worry more if they don’t eat than them gaining weight.

6- And this is probably the secret reason, we want to hear “I am not going to tell Momma, but you made this better than her.” This is a rare statement but if we ever hear that it is better than winning the Betty Crocker Award. The worst critique after they have emptied all of the bowls is to hear “Momma always made us this _________ and she could make it better than anyone. A cold shower doesn’t work as good as this line for killing romance.

7- We begin posting every meal we cook to see how many likes and shares as well as requests for the recipes. We reply that it is a family recipe, right? That means right after we copied it off Pinterest or the Food Network.

8- We will cook an occasional healthy meal just in case someone criticizes our unhealthy fattening cooking style. It is more for show and once we receive the kudos for watching our family’s eating habits, we make a pan of homemade cathead biscuits, grab the butter and syrup and redeem ourselves. Not to forget the pies and cakes we make to show our true love.

All of this is in jest but there is some truth in how we, as Southern cooks, love cooking. It is rare for a Southern gal to not know how to cook like most of us do. When we good cooks hear that someone hates cooking or is a rare bad cook, we have to stop ourselves from saying “what’s wrong with that gal?”

All of us have our hobbies and talents but most southern ladies will proudly tell you “Cooking and Baking” if you ask what they love to do.

Live Life, Love Life, and Live Life to the Fullest by Cooking til the Last of the Goodies are Gone.

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This photo is courtesy of friends Donna and Greg Childre, who enjoy their home, Huffer Haven with emphasis on their faith and love for God.

TODAY THE WORD is SILENCE. For someone, such as me, it is hard to fathom silence, but silence is “golden” as some wise person said. In my lifetime, I have learned the most when I listened to others and then soaked it into my mind. Those times have produced maturity and wisdom, more than my many trials and errors. The amusing thing is when I was young, I didn’t seem to think I had a lot to say and was a quieter person. Have you found yourself speaking up more in our middle years? Are you more expressive or did you learn that silence is golden? What I find amusing in this life is when we chatter boxes try the silence period, people want to find out what is wrong. Monks go through periods of years after taking a vow of silence. Do you think they do more thinking during that period or more praying? Both of these processes are vital to our spiritual growth. In our lives, instead of confronting a situation before we have had time to be silent, and think and pray for the right words to express our feelings without a lot of emotion may be “golden”. This way, we may avoid the trap of useless words in haste. A word of silence may be a thunderous roar in Heaven and may be viewed sincere as it is a sign of respect. 

The old saying of “Bite your tongue” may really mean use a moment of silence to regain your composure. I think back when I was young and I would see an old man who whittled away at a chunk of wood. He wasn’t a friendly sort of man, but not unpleasant either. He spent a lot of time in silence and I wondered what he was thinking while he was whittling. We, as a nation, spend a lot of time discussing “important” matters but spend so little time praying over them. As individuals, we pray; as a nation, we don’t. I think if we would spend more silent time in reverence since God hears us when we speak from our hearts as well as from our mouth. As a writer, this may sound counterproductive as I express my thoughts through my words, but I have a lot of silent moments.   

Now for the deeper thought….Maybe, today I will put aside all of the chatter and go inside where I know God dwells and listen to my heart beat, count my blessings that God has allowed me another day to listen and learn from Him. He will present my lessons for today and if I listen closely, He will offer solutions. Listen to the inner voice and see what happens!


Psalm 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”  

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